[Party_Girl.]

Hi! Okay this is my story a year ago I began to like this guy, really like him. (know one knew) My friend starts to date him, I was upset but I got over it I thought it wasn't meant to be. Eventually me and the guy becomes friends again and those feelings start coming back. We started hanging out more and talking more because he was always with my friend, his girlfriend. So me and this guy would just love to be around each other. Then I started dating someone. Then I hit the stage where I was going to do something with my boyfriend. Now him and my friend haven't yet. So he find out and he is furious like pissed. I asked him why he cared so much( no answer) and I told him to leave it alone. Then a month later I find out they broke up. The next day everything is weird Idk where to walk to when I walked through the door to him or my friend. I sat by myself. Then he showed. The emails of them breaking up to people. I asked him what was wrong with him he said what I do with my sh*** I do with it. I said really look me in the eye and tell me that. He didn't and I waited. He said bye and I walked away. Now that day was painful for me like he dumped me. Now to this day all I think about is him, and all he does is stare and I can see that he still cares because the look in his eyes is how he use to stare at me when we were alone, and when he didn't look me in the eye.
Now I over here him talking about me with his friends sometimes but not how a normal guy tlks to his friends abiut a girl though he's different. For exame I wasin the library one day and I overhead some guy say to him why do you care if she's made at you like- he cuts him off and says you don't know her like I do. Idk
So should I go for it? But it would break my friends heart. But I can't stop thinking about him. And she doesn't care for him when we talk about him she can't stand it.
Should I go for it? Please help!

[Schoolmarm97]

I'm going to vote "NO" on the "should I go for it" question. I know it seems very exciting right now, and it's possible that this guy might, in the long run, turn out to be someone you want to have in your life, but take it from me, hurting other people along the way will NOT contribute to your life in any positive way. Clean up the relationships first. Don't ever leave one guy for another, because you will wind up regretting things you haven't even thought about yet. Don't damage a girl-girl friendship over a guy. The guy will move on (you sound too young to be getting married, so I'm guessing this will eventually end... probably badly), but your friend may well be your backup girl for life. I still have female friends from high school (and that was a VERY long time ago), but I can't even remember which guys I was ready to die for back then.

And always remember the saying that "if he'll do it WITH you; he'll do it TO you." That works both ways. Get in the habit of letting your common sense die while you give in to a thrill ride, and you're going to lower your standards in a way that can't be undone.

[Fr_Chuck]

I go with no, after the way he treated the other girl, do you want that to be you in a couple months or over time.