[confused0626]

I have been searching the internet and reading people's concerns and none of them seem to match mine completely. I am 25 yrs old and my boyfriend is 28. We have been together for a little over a year and a half and I moved in when we were only together for 2 months. I know that's very soon but I got kicked out of where I was and had no choice. My boyfriend and I have an amazing relationship. We do everything together and all his friends always say they wish their wife and them had a relationship like ours. I have a 4 year old daughter who lives with us every other week and they gett along great. Sometimes I think she likes him more than me! The only issue I'm having is our sex life. It's gotten worse about the last 6 months. Sometimes I wonder if maybe it's just me making a big deal out of it or not, but it really bothers me. We use to have sex at least once a day, if not more. Now it's once every 7-9 days. Some of you are probably thinking that's still pretty good so that's why I don't know if I'm making this out to be a big deal. I'm always the one instigating it and most of the time he will say "don't now" or he'll get crabby when I try anything. His excuse use to be that he was so tired from work but he quit his job about 9 months ago and has been working out of his garage fixing just about anything you can think of but he still has a ton of free time. Now I'm not sure what his excuse is. He also use to drink quite a bit of beer but hasn't had any for about the past 2 weeks. As far as I know, he watches very little porn, if any so I don't think that is the issue. If I mention anything about it to him, he just gets crabby and thinks I'm making a big deal out of it but it really really bothers me. It makes me feel like I'm disgusting. If anyone has any advice or answers, please send them my way!

[smoothy]

I think you might need to look objectively at other parts of the relationship... maybe he's not quite as happy about it as you are. And its not hard to miss the signals something is wrong when you think everything is right.

You haven't been together long at all... and I bet part of this is the novelty of the relationship wearing off... and the reality is setting in for him... and there is something he's not quite so happy with.

However unless you can get him to say what it is, all we can do is guess. And if this is a result of him being upset about something, pushing him is going to result in a pushback...

2 weeks isn't long to be off booze if he was a heavy drinker...

I think you might be on target with the job situation... he quit his job in the middle of a horrific economy when tens of millions can even find one... he's piddling around fixing things in his garage for likely even LESS money than before... so you might have an issue of stress... him realizing it was stupid to quit a job... him relizing he's not making nearly as much as he thought working for himself... and the resulting money woes...

You don't have to work 12-16 hours a day for work to kill your libido. Just worrying about where the money to pay the next batch of bill will come from is enough to do it.

He he even had a physical from a doctor recently? HIgh blood pressure or diabetes can sneek up without any symptoms and only when they become life threatening untreated can they cause these sorts of issues... then even if he is... certain medications can give a whammy to the male libido.

[confusedinfl131]

I have the same problem with my fiancé. Only I'm the one with a full time job. He doesn't even work and I'm still begging for sex. I can get him hard and yet he still won't do anything with it. I've tried everything. I'm beginning to think he's ither cheating on me or he's bored with me all together. Were only 20 shouldn't he be in like his prime or something?

[Songbird283]

I have almost the same issue as the first woman's question/issue.. And pretty similar to the other answers also.. My boyfriend says everything's fine, but he'd rather take care of his own sexual needs than with me. I lost my job & he quit his, although he has enough money in the bank to not be too worried about the bills for a while. I can get him aroused, but he won't always act on it like he used to. I'm afraid he's not as attracted to me anymore. =( Maybe it's just the loss of that "honeymoon phase" at the beginning of a relationship. We've been together almost a year & a half, and I moved in after he asked me to about 9 months ago. We still have sex at least every 7-9 days, but it used to be so much more often. I just can't understand what's going on. I have a lot of speculations.. stress, job, etc. I'm hoping once we're both working again & get back into a routine, that things will get better.. *sigh*

[aprillee73]

Men need to work to boost their egos. He lost his job 9 months ago and stopped having sex with you six months ago... do the math. Gently push him to get a job a job!