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    Jan 7, 2012, 10:37 PM
    What is he really thinking after our breakup?
    My ex and I have known each other since middle school but didn't start dating until our Junior year of high school. We were inseparable and made a lot of fun memories but when it was time to go to college we chose different ones and said we would still work it out because we wanted to be together. During our first semester of college he barely called, skyped and texted. He started hanging out with other girls and I found out through my friend that the girl liked him. I was hurt that he didn't tell me because he went to her house with another girl and guy to hang out for the weekend and that's when I decided to take a break. He was really hurt that I wanted this but I was hurt for him not being a boyfriend and respecting me. About a week passes by and I break up with him because I wanted him to wake up and see that I wouldn't be there if he kept acting like he was and not wanting to try to be in this relationship. He was really hurt and wanted to work things out but all of a sudden the said he wanted to be friends and see other people to make him realize he wants to be with me.
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    Jan 8, 2012, 02:17 AM
    You either work on whatever problems there are in a relationship together or you work on your own problems apart.

    Do you really want to be friends?

    I wouldn't .

    You broke up with him,I think you did the right thing.
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    Jan 8, 2012, 06:30 PM
    I applaud you for doing what you had to do for your dignity, and self respect. It must have been really hard. But the good news is the worst is over, and you are free to do much better, and in time, after a proper mourning/healing period, you will.

    Maybe he misses you later, especially if things don't work out for him the way he expects them to. But be aware that if he hasn't been dishonest before, it can happen again. Best enjoy your freedom, and take your chances with rebuilding yourself to be happy with your options, opportunities, and better, possibilities for a happy life.
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    Feb 5, 2012, 09:11 PM
    You made a really good decision to break up with. This guy I feel doesn't want to be friends with you for friendship's sake. He just wants some emotional support and like a parasite suck out all your emotional strength till he gets into another stable relationship.

    I've been with such a guy, once you break up with a guy, he has no where to go immediately, so he'll try to keep you around asking you to be 'friends' till he gets a new partner.

    Don't be his friend.

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