[Crisanthama]

I need a little advise please. I have been with my BF for 8 long years off and on, up until two years ago we settled down, I moved in with him and everything was OK until I found out he flirts, talks, chats n who knows what else with other girls. So I decided to leave once again. Except this time I was pregnant. He asked me to forgive him and to start our new life as a family with our little one on the way.

I am a firm believer of having mom and dad together since my parents have been married for almost 50 years, His parents separated after 20 years. And we agreed to try not to fight, lets stay together for ever blah blah. Our baby is 1 now and come to find out he still chats and does his thing like always. I respect him enough to where I'm not going to go lead a man on or try to call or text with anyone because I have a man at home and my own family to take care of. He on the other hand still goes out, text, chat etc. I know this because I have access to his stuff which I really never check because I should trust him.

But when I do go on his FB or email or anything I always find him telling other girls pretty things.. If he loved me for real he wouldn't need to have the urge to speak to no other girls. I can have a drop dead gorgeous man in front asking for my number and all I can say is "sorry but I'm with someone already and we have beautiful baby and home witch I don't want to fall apart , so no I won't give you my number" we both come from different worlds, I don't know maybe it's the age difference I'm 4 years older, please someone tell me what I should do?

[talaniman]

If you have talked about the boundaries of good behavior, and he crossed the line, then you talk about it, and re establish the line. If you have not, then you need to talk.

You don't sit in the corner smoldering with anger, and resentments. No communications, no relationship.

[mmresd]

It seems like you have answered your own question.

The Phrase "If he loved me for real he wouldn't need to have the urge to speak to no other girls." if you believe this then why are you with a person that is not giving you the respect you deserve.

Tell him to knock it off or that he needs to go, you don't have to stick around at home waiting for a man to come home to you and your baby smelling like another female. Straighten things out before it gets worse.