[porras1]

Well me and my boyfriend have been together for 16 months now, and well I've caught him texting, and emailing other girls. It was no sexting, or flirting, in the messages I saw, but some of those girls he has slept with before, and some are his exes. It hurts me so much that he has done this 6 times, and I tell him I will leave him, that this ain't fair for me, because I've always stayed truthful, but he says he won't do it again. That the only girl he wants to spend the rest of his life with is me.

I forgave him 5 times but recently I found another text. I texted the girl myself, and she said she was one of his exes. We are suppose to be looking for another apartment to move to when our lease is up next year, but I'm not sure if I can believe him anymore. He says I'm the only girl for him, and that it isn't like he is cheating on me because he doesn't see them, or sleep with them, or nothing, but in my eyes its still wrong.
What should I do? My heart says one thing, but my head says another. I love him so much, and he is the father of my child.

[moonlightsonata]

Same thing happened to me. Unfortunately most times as girls we can't control the way we feel and our jealousy. My boyfriend has done that with two girls multiple times behind my back after he promised me he wouldn't talk to them anymore. After confronting him it was basically that he felt like I was trying to control him, which I wasn't, I just didn't want drama in my relationship. Your man most likely does love you he just doesn't want to feel like he's being controlled, you know men and their pride ;)if you know he's not doing anything with them, you're just going to have to trust him or even talk to him about it and put himself in your shoes. After I told him everything from my perspective and asked him to honestly say how he would feel, he understood and there weren't anymore problems.

[talaniman]

First stop threatening to leave and don't, and stop forgiving when he does it again. I bet if you had left the first time the chances of it happening again would not be so great, and had you not forgiven him, then he would have to take you seriously.

Another thing is in today's age of Facebook and text messages, they can mean nothing, just human interactions, HOWEVER, a couple has to make the boundaries of good behavior, and be reasonable and stick to them.

To break his word 5 times and still be doing it, is unacceptable.

When you allow bad behavior, you get more of it, so before you move together, resolve your issues. Or split, and get the child support.

You better start backing up your words with actions though, or don't say them.

[crystal0808]

U need to leave him. I was in the same situation my ex was always texting other girls too. And would say they were just friends but one day I went threw his phone when he was sleeping and found texts telling each other they love each other. So when I confronted him about it he would lie in my face still. It was even to were I would get the girls numbers and call them and they would say they were messing with him. And I am pregnant and we have 2 daughters. That really hurt me so one day I snapped and left him. And now he's begging me to come back but I was at my breaking point cause he will never change. My advice to you no matter how much you love him you don't deserve to be treated like that no woman does. So I was with my ex for 5 years and I found the courage to leave him so you can too. Do what's best for you. Cause he probably will never change.