[Prodigy_child]

My girlfriend is stressed and she's very prideful and independent. She has a child with a guy who would mistreat her and physical harm her, she it out of the relationship but he's been giving her grief. I told her I'm here if she wanted to talk about it but she's been keeping me at a distance because she doesn't want to be negative around me. Our relationship is great we don't argue and we spend time whenever we have time. We are both extremely busy and any spare time we have we are with each other. She told me she's been really stressed and depressed but she won't let me know what's going on she just told me " I'll tell you later"... I text her and I haven't got a response from her in two days which isn't like her. So I called and her phone is turned off which makes me question. I emailed her and told her I'm here for her and she can talk to me, and if she needs time to herself I'd give that to her cause I don't want to cause her more grief than what she already has. I want to be supportive but I don't know if I'm doing the right thing. I'm worried about her it's about to be Christmas and I was planning to spend it with her but it doesn't look like I'll be seeing her cause she won't respond to my texts. We been fine and this is out of the blue and I know how she is, she wants to handle things on her own but it really bothers me that she hasn't talked to me about what's going on. The last thing we talked about was her an her ex just got into a confrontation and the cops were called I told her if she needed anything from me and if she's OK... But she hasn't responded I went to her house to check on her and she hasn't been there, so I'm here thinking the worse. What do I do? Do I just quit trying to call or text her since she's not responding to
Me? And wait for her to contact me? I'm lost

[JudyKayTee]

You stop putting additional pressure on her by calling, texting, e-mailing and so forth. If you think something has happened to her at the hands of the "ex," call the Police. If you question if anything has happened call one of her relatives and ask - if she's your girlfriend and you spend time together you presumably know her family. I'd be very careful, though. If she's decided - for whatever reason - that she doesn't want contact with you and you call someone about her welfare she is going to explode.

What would I do? I'd leave her alone. Maybe she'll contact you. Maybe she won't. Maybe she's back with the father of her child. Maybe she's not.

Maybe she needs someone who has more time for her. Maybe she's just decided to be alone.

I have no idea what/when/how you said anything to her BUT if you begged her to talk to you, kept telling her you would "be there for her," she may have decided you can't drop it, and she'll walk away.

How persistent were you?

[Prodigy_child]

We haven't argued at all I'm a pretty calm person. It's been three days since we talked I texted her once yesterday with me telling her I hope she's having a great day and no response. I didn't want to continue to text since she didn't get back to me. It bothered me and I couldn't sleep but I didn't text her after that. I called her today early in the morning but it went to voicemail which tells me her phone is off. With her phone off she wouldn't see her missed calls unless she got voicemails which I didn't leave one

[joypulv]

She may be OK, she may not, but there is nothing you can do but wait. How old is her child, and does she take him with her, and is she likely to be with the ex for Christmas? I would guess that they are having a truce for the holiday. Can you go to family so YOU aren't alone? As long as your phone is on she can reach you.