[blueskye90]

I am a girl and I was dating another girl. It was both of ours first same-sex relationship and it just sort of happened. Neither of us were attracted to girls prior but we fell for each other under certain circumstances.

To the point. We dated for a total of 9 months and everything was great and wonderful, we were very happy, and did a lot of things together. Before we dated, one of her close guy friends confessed his love for her, but she didn't have those feelings for him. As a result, he abandoned their friendship, and then went around screwing her roommate. And then him and her roommate were dating, which made my girlfriend upset and sad because she lost her close friend. He also disliked me for being close to her.

Around month 6 of our relationship, my girlfriend grew very distant, and started hanging out with her guy friend again. I thought nothing of it at first. Then we both went on an internship in central america together, and after the internship we had a two week vacation there. It was terrible. She was completely distant, and I felt like everything was so forced. I brought it up to her on our last night there, and she said she was sorry, that she didn't realize she was being so distant and that she still loved me and of course she still wanted to be with me. Three days after we get back to the US she dumps me, and then 2 hours after dumping me begs for me back.

The next 3 months were terrible. I hear from my friends about how she doesn't want to be in this relationship anymore, and I find out she has strong feelings for her close guy friend, and that he still loves her too, but that he is committed to his current girlfriend. Despite that, they spend a lot of time together. I would ask about it and she said she had no feelings for him, that she just missed her friend. When me and her would spend time, she would put me down and be mean. She kept lying and hiding things and then dumped me again, but begged for me back. I kept giving her chances and forgiving her, but eventually had enough and broke it off with her. She said she was so sorry and felt terrible and awful and would never want to lose me as a friend.

Then I found out about more lies.. We both received anonymous emails, and in the email it had all the things she has been saying behind my back about me, which were the total opposite of what she would personally tell me. I tried to call and confront her, but she won't answer my calls.. She says she cares but is completely abandoning me. But then to her friends she said I was a mistake, and that she wishes she could go back in time and date him when she had the chance. I just feel like a complete failure.

I don't know what to do.

[talaniman]

You remove yourself from the situation, and stop contact with the lying false friends. That's what you do, so you can leave the hurt, and drama of others behind and enjoy a happy life without them in it.

Hurts for a while, but it gets much better for you without them bringing you down.

[AlaiaRae]

That's just plain wrong but it happens. She seems to be the type of girl who is afriad to be alone. Wants to ne surrounded by people and tells them whatever they want to hear to keep them around. You don't need to be getting hurt repeated by her. You want to keep her around not for her but the things she tells you. You can find someone who actually cares about you and tells you things you want to hear and means them. Leave the lying girl behind. It'll hurt for awhile but you'll be happy you did it eventually.