[jteely]

Moved to its own thread, and edited/T

Hi everyone, I live in St.Louis, Missouri. My son is one going on 2, Feb.2, 2012, I got pregnant at 16 and had my son at 17...

My boyfriend has been in his life since 2 months, but his real father I see often, and my boyfriend refuses to let me give my son to his real daddy, but my boyfriend is always gone with his friends, but wants to control everything I do and I hate that ****. My son's bio-daddy won't come see him because he scared of my boyfriend, but I need a solution.

It's so hard being a teen parent. I missed so much of my teen life, and I want it back. I'm too stressed out, and I need someone to take my baby for a while. I need to get myself together, because I need my life back, because I'm half bipolar, and I have a borderline personality disorder, and I'm still that 16 year old girl, so I need advice bad.

I'm only 19, momma got killed at 7, my brother got killed, basically I have a rough life and having a baby confuses life for me. I love him to death, but in order for me to be a good mother, I need to get together first.

How??

[talaniman]

It's a bit late to go back, but a support system other than this boyfriend would help greatly. Have you no family to rely on? Or the baby daddy's family?

How about a trusted older female? County services maybe? You have much that can be done, and I think it starts with the right type of guidance, and support, through the county services you live at, or a church organization, or family, or even a woman's shelter that could hook you up with some much needed help..

[Fr_Chuck]

I will sound somewhat blunt, you gave up your childhood when you felt mature and old enough to have sex. Had we tried to warn you at 15 or 16 we would have gotten what we get here every day, ** Oh but that is not me, I am more mature than others may age, and my boyfriend and I are so much in love.

Next wake up call: Your current boyfriend has no say what so ever in what you do with your child and where your child goes. In fact the child's bio father has legal rights to see his child, if you refuse to allow it, he could go to court and perhaps even get custody and take the child away.

The bio father is not visiting you and should just come pick the child up and go for his visits. This should include weekend visits after he is able to care for the child.

What about the bio fathers parents, can they not keep the child sometimes ?

So stop being controlled by this person and start treating the bio father properly, start allowing your child his right to know his father.