[loopylou75]

Hi I am in a similar situation.I have been with my boyfriend for 13 months he has been on numerous dating sites calling himself bisexual he seems to get a kick out of chatting to men arranging to meet but never go through with the meet. Well as far as I know he hasn't . He has admitted to having at least three sexual encounters with a very well known gay in our village before we got together. He likes to watch shemale and young gay porn he also goes on gaydate on sky and sex texts men. I have found him on webcam roulette wanking himself off to men. Each time he gets caught out he tries to lie then admits everything . He has been caught out at least 15 times and each time he says he loves me and won't do it again . I really do believe he is addicted to these sites but he can't stop doing it. I have offered to go and get help with him myself esteem is at a rock bottom and I've not been able to work since August. I love him so much but he's destroying me.Our sex life is brilliant too so why does he do it ?

[ThankYouBelarus]

Everyone's sexual preferences and interests are different. If it bothers you that much, talk to him about it. Tell him how it's affecting you without judging why he's doing it. If your sex life is brilliant, but he's destroying you, I think you need to take care of yourself and take a step back.

You may need to give him some time to figure things out. Being gay isn't a problem to be fixed, and if you treat it like it is or like there is something wrong with him, he might end up pushing you away.

This is a complicated situation and I feel like we may have some cultural differences. Therefore I'm sorry if my answer wasn't helpful.

[loopylou75]

We do talk about it very openly and I've even said if you want to come out I will support you. Ive recently found out I'm pregnant and he has finished with me. He says he wants me but he doesn't want the baby. This just enforces for me that he never wanted me. He still says he loves me, on dec 4th I found another gay dating app on his phone he couldn't even tell the truth this time just denied ever seeing it. Im in a complete mess at the moment I have no self confidence and he has completely destroyed me.

[Fr_Chuck]

The issue is that being gay or bi is not an excuse to have online affairs and upsetting to their partner.
Being bi merely means they have those desires, But just like people who are straight once they commit to a partner they are not suppose to keep going after others.

He may want to watch some porn but that would be that.

So he is showing no respect to you, wants to act like he is single