[loadorange]

I'm dating one of my best friends. We have been friends for nearly 7 years along with our group of friends and his older brother. In the past, my best friend dated him, but after 3 years we found out she cheated on him with his brother, but somehow they are still friends. I was good friends with her until she started dating the boy I'm dating now, and after they started dating I was still friends with everyone though we never hung out much.

I was virtually alone, and they all hang out pretty much every night. After the incident where my boyfriend found out my friend was cheating on him, they all STILL hung out. When we began dating, she even officially started dating his brother. What bothers me is that she now treats me like crap along with all of my friends. I'm not sure why they all hate me now, and I can accept that I won't be friends with them ever again, but they're still friends with my boyfriend.

When I am around, everyone has conversations and makes plans in which I'm not included, and I have reason to believe (besides the fact that I've actually witnessed it) that they say mean things about me for no reason. My boyfriend won't do anything about this and claims that it's because he "doesn't know what to do" so I've been dealing with their behavior for years. If it's because he values them over me, I could just break up with him, but I know that he loves me. I can't ask or tell him to stop hanging out with his friends(even if they don't like me, he deserves to have friends).

There's also the fact that one of those friends is his own brother. What can I do to show him that being around these people hurts me? I've told him that our situation hurts me, and he's even seen me cry about it, but I need some powerful action to SHOW him how much this affects me.

[talaniman]

How old are you guys? Maybe what you need are your own GOOD friends, and NOT just hang out buddies that hate you, and treat you bad.

Being around good people would certainly help the situation. What do you want your boyfriend to do about this? Tell him.

[elishajackson]

In the past I had a problem a bit like this, so what I would do is talk to everybody not just your boyfriend, but everyone about how they are hurting your feelings. See where that takes you. It's what I did and it helped. So I wish well for you. Good luck.