[iamthehope]

She told me she is confused, and love me a lot, but in last days she met her old BF, and told me that time that she is going to meet, and don't talk in that time, and wait till tomorrow.

I have waited and then she told me that she not happy with me in relation, but she loves me lot. I told her its OK, do as you like, and go with him. Now she messaging me that she love me, and miss me, and want me all time. She told me that she need time to think, as she is confused again in this relations.

What should I do? As right now, I am not showing interest in her, and just normal talk I did. She is pleading me that I became same like I was earlier with her. I don't understand what is this all about? Any answers?

[talaniman]

Didn't you ask her what she is confused about? Didn't you ask her what she meant by space? How much, or how long? Do so, and if she can't explain it, or answer your questions, leave her alone until she can, and make sure she knows that YOU think she is dumping you.

Tell her you know what you want, so why doesn't she know what she wants? If she cannot satisfy your questions then the choice is clear, let her be confused all by herself, and disappear from her life.

[iamthehope]

Dear, she is confused to chose between us... she was first with him for 2 month but they fought and ended but his old BF continuly try to hold he bt she didn't respond... after that I came in her life and past 6 months we are in relation and very very close to each other and know everything... she told me she needs time to think whom to chose and then she tld me she loves me and can't live without me etc... but then sudden she met he old... and tld me she is not happy so I let he go and then sudden she comes back and tld me ke she tld what comes in her mind... and want me also and she loves me really... she miss me also... ecently I leave her alone and talk only when she herself message me... and she even feel sory for telling me that... and she says is not 100 % on any decision and stl confused whom to chose... I just leave it and tld her do wtever she want to do and kp busy myself in my work... what she actually meant by all this I don't understand... hlp me...

[talaniman]

It means she cannot make a decision so wants to keep it cool with you both until she does.

Make a decision for her would be my choice if it were me and tell her to go get the other guy. A partner that's not loyal, is NOT a partner. Disappear from her life because to be confused about whom you rather be with means she is not in your corner. You never go along with an arrangement that has YOU waiting in limbo while she makes up her mind.

NEVER!!

[iamthehope]

Thanks for telling me this... I even told her that go to get him and I even stop messaging to her... I told her that if she loves me than she will come to me... and also tell her that if she really love the first one then she never had fallen for me... whatever I want to move on now... and you are true also that she is not loyal to anyone still then why should I be in it... again thanks for the help... I will think on it... but now I am feeling that I done right by let her go... :)