[Wondergirl]

Your essay will be

Two pages or so:
What is love?

Love around the world in various cultures and at various times

One or so pages on each person in the story -- Mel, Terri, etc. and their ideas of what love is and relate them to the ideas people have held as per the previous section on cultures -- similarities? Differences?

Last page:
Summary -- Did Carver accomplish what he set out to do according to the story's title. If yes, how (summary of characters' ideas)? If not, why not?

[kari07]

May I send you what I have so far?

[Wondergirl]

Post it here?

[kari07]

Yes, I have a bit done. I did my intro and the general info about love and started the japanese ideas on love. But I don't feel like its correct I am going to post it right now.

[kari07]

Throughout human history, people have tried to define the word “love.” Everyone talks not about love itself, but of the weak structures and distortions that support love. Love, loss, blindness, and loneliness are some of the basic views on everyone's daily lives. Some say that love is a permanent emotion, that if people fall in love with each other, you should continue to love them for the rest of your life. Others see love as a useless emotion, one that could be here today and gone the next. The method of how to find love has always been very hesitant. The main cause is how to deal with a loss. Gaining the judgment and getting to the main resolution are some of the issues that have engaged in human beings. All of this is what human beings were created for; to live life, to entertain, to experience new things in life, to overcome the negative and positive aspects of life. This is the whole fundamental of the emotion love. In the story, “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love” by Raymond Carver, we see how different kinds of viewpoints can really be looked upon on others, and how all these viewpoints on the topic can help us fully understand the definition towards love.
In the short story, “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love” clearly indicates a way of approaching that there was no action to speak or change of the setting in the story, nothing important seems to happen besides going on and off about conversations with one another about love. Love may be described as actions towards you or one another based on the condolence for each other, or the actions towards individuals based on mixed emotions. In our daily language, love refers in a variety of different feelings, meanings, and attitudes towards different things. Love can refer to a personal attractions, romantic love, family, friendship, and religious love. All of these meanings make it difficult to define what love actually is? Raymond Carver's short story states, “What do any of us really know about love? It seems to me we're just beginners at love. We say we love each other and we do, I don't doubt it. I love Terri and Terri loves me, and you guys love each other too. You know the kind of love I'm talking about now. Physical love, that impulse that drives you to someone special, as well as love of the other person's being, his or her essence, as it were” ( Carver pg. 547). That was a kind of sentimental love that went day by day caring for that certain person. No matter how you define it or feel it, love will always be the endless truth to the history of us humans. Love is a very patient and kind meaning towards everyone. Love protects and pushes forward for the positive portion of life. Always try to stand dedicated in any kind of love, never fall into it. Love is a dream of one's feelings coming true that may occur with more than one individual. To make love feel easy, you need to focus on the goodness of the other person and have a positive view on yourself and others by loving everyone equally.
What do you feel with you love someone or want to love someone? Love is simply an emotion, a feeling and wanting to be loved by someone special. The main components on love towards another person is love is accepting, love is appreciated, and love is wanting another person to feel good. Many people in relationships become attached to their loved one which promotes relationships that last for many years with one another. Attachments are based on their commitments such as marriage, having children, or are on mutual friendship based on things like shared interests you both like. Many relationships can lead to being a abusive relationship and having one thinking that really is love. People tend to fall in love with others fairly fast, getting comfortable around another, knowing each others life secrets, and having control about one another. This sometimes leads to sexual abuse if your partner doesn't like what you do or say, it will get into a abusive fight and argument, many people think that is love and are to afraid to leave their other loved one behind. In the article, “ All About Love” psychologist Robert Sternberg, “ formulated a triangular theory of love and argued that love has three different components: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion.” Intimacy is a form of love shared by two individuals that can share anything with each other and various details of their personal lives and obstacles they went through. Intimacy is mainly showed through close friendships and romantic relationships. Commitment is the expectation that the relationship is going to go through its ups and downs but in the end they promise it will always come together and last forever. The last but most common use of love is sexual attraction and obsession over one another. Passionate love is shown in the fascination as well as in the kind of romantic love.
There has always been a saying that “opposites attract” many people agree that pairs unite to each other when they both have differences with one another. It can be simply anything their appearance, personality, character, etc. Love is simply an activity, not just a feeling. Love is also not a game, if you truly love someone you should always treat them how you would like to be treated with respect and have exactly no control issues. Love is also a choice not something you are forced into. If love comes from appreciating goodness it can happen anything can happen if you just believe. You can always create love it might not come how you want it, but there are always other options out there in the world. The main thing to focus on is the kind hearted people and everyone is one, if you can do this easily you will find love like nothing.














Every language has their own key words that reflect back onto their culture. Every culture can be studied, compared and explained to more than once by using the cultures key words. In Anna Wierzbicka's article, the author “analyzes six Japanese concepts widely regarded as being almost more that any others culture- specific and culturally revealing – amae, enryo, wa, on, giri, and seishin- and shows how the use of the natural semantic metalanguage helps to make the concepts clear and how it facilitates better insight into Japanese culture and society.” These key words replicate on the culture to which the language belongs to. In the Japanese culture to show that you love your parents the Japanese parents are to hug and indulge their children, and the children are expected to reward their mothers by clinging and serving them. In the Japanese culture the two main words for love are ai and koi. There are many ways to say I love you in Japanese, but the implied meaning of “love” is well understood. Love means the same thing when getting married as our culture does. People will promise each other their love for forever when they get married. Marriage is usually the proof of love for one another and a commitment for life. If love disappears and doesn't work out as expected, people tend to divorce very quickly. Japanese think love marriage is better because loveless arranged marriages end up in divorce leading for one parent to raise the children, and in their culture woman often have to quit their jobs and take care of the household. Japanese mean will then look down on the women at work, and are ready to ask them to just stay home and pay for the expenses.

[Wondergirl]

It needs more paragraph breaks and some editing, but generally is good so far. I note some plagiarizing from the Wikipedia article. Be careful.

[kari07]

What do you mean by paragraph breaks where do they need to be started as new paragraphs?

[Wondergirl]

The second and third paragraphs seem pretty dense.