[camille32]

I've been liking this guy since my junior year when I first met him. When I first met him I knew he was the one. He was everything I asked for and more. I hadn't been with anyone since I had met him junior year when I was 18. I'm 20 now going on 21.

When we met he was so comfortable around me, even though he had a girlfriend. We exchanged numbers and talked almost everyday and night. He would tell me about his relationship problems, what he liked and how football practice was and things like that. Then next year which was our senior year we kind of didn't speak because I ended up dated someone. He was talking to someone so I didn't feel the need to just not hold on. Even though I had a boyfriend in the back of my mind I always thought about him. I would text him even when I was with my boyfriend.

After we graduated we started talking more on a different level because me and my boyfriend were broken up. He wanted to do more with me sexually. I didn't give in that easily because I told him if we were to ever do anything our friendship would be ruined. I can't tell you that nothing happened because it did. I later then wanted him and thought sex was the only way to get him since our friendship was already there. We shared one experience together and it was great.

He then moved on to go to the army but would come home on occasions to see his family and of course me. But all for the wrong reasons. I told him I liked him but it never occurred to me that maybe he does not feel the same way and is just using me for sex. I know that I still like him and want a real relationship even though the sex is great I wouldn't want to hurt myself in the process. I know I'm probably not the only one he's talking to. But how do I make him stay with me because I know his feelings are deep for me as well

[talaniman]

Stop having sex, and see if what you think are deep feelings by him are real or NOT.

[geminichick]

Sex is great but I think this guy is just using you as a booty call. A relationship is more than just sex. It's being able to be boyfriend and do things together without ever being intimate together. If calls to see you, tell him you just want to talk or go do something together without sex and see where he'll head for. I would imagine the front door. Once he's out that front door... leave him there, you deserve much better than that. YOu are no sex object for any man!

[Homegirl 50]

You can't make him stay with you. He either wants you or he doesn't.

Stop having sex with him, then you'll know what his feelings for you are.