What should we do?

mockmama1 · Dec 7, 2011, 07:18 PM

Me and my hubby just got married and had our baby. We live with my father as of right now. Lately we seem to be argueing a lot more and at each others throats. We haven't got to spend very much time together or alone for that matter (expected with a 5 month old) however we don't get our own privacy. My hubby works a lot because I stay at home with our child. When he is home we don't get to talk very much and I get cut off by my father a lot during the convos we do have. We want to move out, but we don't want to hurt my fathers feelings nor do we want to leave him alone (hes never really been by himself). I've always been a daddys girl and I'm not ashamed of it I admit it. It feels as though we have to pick between my fathers happiness and well being or our marriage and stuff. Can anyone please help me with our situation.. I would greatly apperciate it.
Thanks

libenitz · Dec 7, 2011, 07:22 PM

Get a place with an in-law apartment. That way your dad is close, yet independent and you and your family can have some privacy.

mockmama1 · Dec 7, 2011, 07:30 PM

That would work but we have property n a house that we're living in and we don't want to sell it n he doesn't want to move.

Fr_Chuck · Dec 7, 2011, 07:33 PM

Sorry, you need privacy, you need not to have family living with you, so early in your marriage.

talaniman · Dec 7, 2011, 08:39 PM

I think you and hubby put your heads together and make a plan that over time gets you some privacy, like maybe a place of your own, if even for a short time, and start working together to make the situation very bearable for all concerned. I don't know the whole story of why you all live with your father, but has anyone tried talking to him about your concerns?

Any situation can be made better through honest communication's, who knows, maybe dad needs some privacy every now and then too. I think over time the adjustments will be identified and made but it starts with you and hubby being on the same page.

I think dad is a big boy and can do for himself, if need be. I know you love your dad, but you married your husband, and that is the priority.

mockmama1 · Dec 8, 2011, 01:00 PM

Yes very true n we have talked about it n tried to come up with ways to get privacy. We both agree to get our own place even if its for a short time. We are still worried about my father however because of his diabetes n stuff. But we know n feel that our marriage n child are our number one priority.
Thank you guys.

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