[Very_Confused]

4 years, love my boyfriend, I am bored, I don't enjoy sex with him. I don't want to leave him, my mom did it to my dad and I always said I would never break some ones heart.. I don't want to hurt him..

Can anyone help please? What should I do?

[Wondergirl]

You'll have to tell us more so we can help. Have you had sex at least one time? Or are you afraid to have it for fear of what it will be like? Or are you just not interested? Have you ever had a boyfriend or been in love?

[Very_Confused]

I have had it a good few times with the one person. I am not afraid, I just do not seem interested and I do not understand why.. yes I have had a few but I have only had sex with one person. Thank you for replying.

[Wondergirl]

I wouldn't worry about it unless you are causing anguish in a relationship. Today there is so much media and social attention paid to sex, so it's good to hear about a young person who doesn't have it as a priority.

Have you ever sat down and explored this a bit with a counselor, just to make sure there isn't something else hidden in the depths of your current thinking? Meeting with someone for two or three sessions might be the best thing you could do, to relieve your mind or to clarify your thinking.

[talaniman]

After merging both your posts I suspect you have some strong feelings and high regards for your boyfriend, but may not be as deeply in love as you may need to be. Matter of fact, I think you are more afraid of hurting him than making a decision based on your real feelings. I don't know, but have you talked about this issue with him? That's where I would start, with some honest conversation.