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Evala · Dec 3, 2011, 08:34 PM

Me and my boyfriend broke up. I'm trying to do everything I can to not think about him but its very difficult. We go to the same school and we work together and have to talk in order to make time go by.

He said he still loves me just not the way he used to. He also says that he isn't looking for a relationship from anyone right now, but me being with someone else would "of course" bother him. I really just don't know what to do since our lives revolved around each other.

I've been talking (like actually just talking) to another guy (sort of my ex) and I'm OK when I'm with him, but I also feel like I'm leading him on. I'm trying my best to not get hurt, get over someone, and not lead someone on, but not much seems to work.

talaniman · Dec 3, 2011, 10:24 PM

How long have you been broken up?

Being dumped sucks for sure? Being dumped and still have to be around each other a lot REALLY sucks big time. Often it makes for a longer healing time and some awkward times.

Be honest with the ex, that you just need a supportive friend, and nothing else, and he will make his own choices. As for the last boyfriend, you need more time to heal, and some very creative distractions at work. Then talking to him will not be your only option to pass the time at work.

How old are you both?

pahlp · Dec 4, 2011, 06:14 AM

Think of a couple things you would like to do or need to do other than the men in your life. Take a break from relationships for awhile. Try to clear your head and I bet it won't take long and you will find the answer within yourself on what to do next about your boyfriend.

Evala · Dec 4, 2011, 09:50 AM

We've only been broken up ofr a couple weeks. I'm 22 and he's 19.

talaniman · Dec 4, 2011, 10:32 AM

I can only caution you against getting carried away with the ex, while you heal from the latest break up.

What I meant by creative distractions is get with friends, family, and activities that make you happy, and you can look forward to besides working, and leaning on the exes.

vanheart · Dec 4, 2011, 11:53 PM

Being dumped sucks.

The first thing is to remove yourself from your ex. As much as humanly possible. School, work, whatever.
Interaction-wise. Work that out. For your peace of mind. Don't hang on.

And by all means, don't jump into anything, now. Seriously
Date away, but don't look to other exs before this one.

Look ahead. Instead. Expand your options.

Take some time to figure out what it is you want. Otherwise you may be in for more of the same & worse.

Who's in control here? You or your exs?

I would hope that you aren't that desperate.