[nypkay]

My ex and I agreed to have time apart to improve ourselves and focus on our lives. This was about 2 weeks ago. But it turns out that literally a day or two after we ended things, he went and hooked up with someone I dislike greatly. This new lover is known to convince people to end things completely.

I was obviously devastated because of the fact that my ex was crying on my shoulders telling me he really wanted things to work out. He made the stupid decision to fall for this new person, considering the fact that this person told him that she was interested in him. Unfortunately, I had to find out the hard way by walking in on them naked in the living room. He told me he lost interest in me and he moved on completely. It's amazing that he could say all of this in a matter of days. He had no time to think about us and our relationship because this new person suddenly came in and gave him the comfort and emotional support he needed.

The situation now is even worse because me and my ex are living together in the same roof. I confronted him about not bringing his new lover over because the pain I am enduring through is still raw, and it hasn't even been a month yet since this happened. He said he understood but brought her over and told me, "this is my house too, I'm going to live my life and I don't want you to prevent that". Its surprising to see how fast he is investing into this relationship. A couple days after we completely ended it, he made it official with this new lover. They even talked about going back to his hometown for Christmas. It's sad to see him acting like this, I can already foretell this relationship is going to end.

During the time we split, I really wanted him back because he told me that he will always be waiting for me, he would never do this to me, etc. He claimed he knew his boundaries, but after all of this he tells me he just "clicked" with this new person. Now, he has been bringing her over almost every night, and she even had the nerve to bring her toothbrush over and use my shower. If he had a couple months to have time for himself and invest in a new relationship with someone new, I would be more accepting of it. As of now, the actions I have seen him do makes me think of him as a pathetic inhumane being.

Will I take him back the day he regrets what he did was wrong? Not a chance. This may seem wrong but the anger and hate I have for him now made me realize my self-worth and what I truly deserve. I will always love my ex no matter what because of the good times we had together, but I don't think or ever see myself being with him ever again. What I am trying to ask is, did he give in so easily because he did not know how to handle his emotions for me? Did he ever love me from the start? He tells me he loved me and still does but I certainly do not believe it.

[geminichick]

If a guy really truly loved you he would not be able to move on with another girl in a matter of days. Did you both purchase the house together? How much longer do you really think you can tolerate emotionally this girl coming over and seeing them together. Sounds like a complete loser. Me personally, I would leave and erase this guy out of my life for good.

[talaniman]

Why are you still living together? His words and actions don't match and its time for somebody to leave pretty darn quick.

[standing47]

Well I am sorry but if he got with her straight away he had no feelings for you you are the one I feel sorry for but love is blind

[Homegirl 50]

You need to make some changes in the living situation. These are not the actions a guy who loved you or has respect for you.