[emmaonetwo]

Okay, so my last boyfriend and I broke up and few days ago. And when we broke up he slept with another girl the same night, and started speaking about "seeing how it goes" between them. He says he still loves me, but also has feelings for the other girl. I thought that he would have went for me because the feelings for me are stronger than what they are for her? He says he's going to speak to her to see what she wants. But I have a gut feeling that it's just a disaster waiting to happen, for example he keeps telling me he loves me and chooses the other girl instead. What should I do?

[talaniman]

Leave him alone is what you should do. He obviously doesn't have stronger feelings for you. That's why he is confused in limbo between you both.

I think he just wants a warm body. Doesn't matter who's!

[odinn7]

What should you do? You should forget about him. Are you really going to play this game? Waiting for him to decide if you're good enough to be with instead of this other girl... that's ridiculous. Get some self respect and tell him to f*&# off. You don't deserve to be stuck like that, nobody does.

[Sandy_123]

I'm sorry to say this friend but I don't think he loves you the way he says, if he did , it would be impossible for him to be with someone else , try to move on , I know how hard it is but you need to find a way :(

[DaniCalifornia]

He's an arse darling. When you really love someone, of course you don't sleep with other people. What it sounds like he's doing is using you as a back up. If this girl rejects him, he's able to run back to you. Make it clear you don't want to be in his life any more!

X Dani

[Jake2008]

What I think you have to do, and this will come with experience and maturity, is learn.

Set your own standards. Be a better judge of character. Don't allow anyone to dictate whether they, may or may not choose you, eventually, if it suits their needs.

It is your call to determine whether you want to allow yourself to be treated this way, or not.

Look at things with a critical eye. For instance, what type of person would say they love you, then break up, immediately sleep with another girl, and keep you hanging on. That speaks to character, and lowering your standards to theirs, and it compromises your own integrity, self respect and personal boundaries.

Learn what love really is, not what version someone else says it is.

Recognize, as hard as it is, what is healthy, and what is not healthy in this relationship. Are your needs being met?

Accept that you will likely have many relationships, and each one will give you experience and knowledge, in order to eventually find someone who is up to your standards, not down to theirs.

Also accept the hardest part, and that is, 'the end' really does mean 'the end'. Be strong enough to say enough is enough, and move on with your dignity intact.

[emmaonetwo]

I've got told him I'm not hanging on because I deserve to be with someone who would jump at the chance to be with me, not hang back and think that maybe he does want to be with me. And that I was not going to let him treat me like **** or cause me anymore emotional because I deserve so much better if he's going to do that.

[Fr_Chuck]

A person who "loves" another person does not sleep with another person the next day.

But then why are you keeping track, who is telling you all of this.

Break all contact with him, don't follow him on Facebook, don't read emails, don't read texts. Respect yourself enough to find someone who will respect you