[tsahani09]

So I use to work as a waitress for a bar, I wasn't bringing in enough money so I started cocktail waitressing at a stripclub. My family bashed me for working there. My moms fiancŽ said " you want respect work somewhere respectful." What they don't know is that as of last week I been dancing. They haven't spoken to me in a month and that was just waitressing. I know I have to tell them but how? I been so depressed, I wasn't spoken to on my birthday, nothing. I just sit home in my rrom and cry. I haven't been eating, drinking a lot and I don't have any real friends. I'm a single mom, high school drop out and a failure as a daughter and human being...

[the_lil_helper]

I think u should tell them to let them know and if they react badly then you should give them time to think it through go on with your life it's your life not theirs and if this doesn't work email me

[Cat1864]

Tsahani, you need to take care of yourself and your child so stop drinking and start eating. If you make yourself sick, you won't be helping anyone.

Next, hold your head up high. You are not a failure at anything. You are doing what you can to survive. You aren't the first person to dance to make ends meet and it is a job just like any other. Have respect for yourself and try not to allow anyone else to damage that respect. How you see yourself has a great affect on how your child sees you.

You don't have to tell your family what you are doing for a living. It's not their business. Besides there are a lot worse ways to make money. You aren't a con-artist or a thief. Your job won't land you in jail. You are not selling 'yourself'. You are only selling a fantasy. People do that every day in a lot of different ways.

Why don't you have any 'real' friends? Do you have any ways to make new friends?

[Fr_Chuck]

You are aware of their values and morals and opinion of this job. This is of course your choice, and you can not make them accept this job. And to be frank, there will be many in society who will look down on you for this position.

But again, why are you upset, it is your choice, if you want to be back in graces, change to a job outside of a strip club. You can not expect everyone to accept all things we do.

[Aurora_Bell]

I agree totally with Cat! You are not a failure! A failure would give up and not TRY to make ends meat. People have to do what they have to do to put money on the table and provide for themselves and their family. I assume you are a grown adult, and as long as your child in in proper care while you are working, who cares how you make your money! Like Cat said, you are selling a fantasy not your body. You don't have to tell them anything. Allow them to think you are waitressing, and don't mention it any more.

I also agree that you have to stop drinking and you NEED to start eating! You need to take care of your child, and the only way you can do that is by taking care of YOU. Lots of single moms feel they don't have friends. Heck, you don't even have to be a single parent to feel alone. I assume you work mostly nights and week-ends, but is there anyway you can get out there during the day and do things for yourself? Taking your little one to the park, swimming, to the zoo. Call up an old friend and ask if they want to tag along. Sometimes when you are raising a kid on your own, you lose track of friends, it's not anyone's fault, but your life gets busy, and you all have different interests. Try reconnecting with old friends, or take a whim on a new aquaintence.

[Squid13556]

I think you need to move on with life! Be a big girl and show your family what u have got. Be the wonderful you inside. You know you don't want to be this person. BE WHO YOU WANT TO BE.