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Mikeyb4444 · Nov 23, 2011, 01:18 PM

Hi peeps.

I need some advice, I would not normally ask but I really like this girl and finding things hard to read.

Basically I have been friends with this girl for 2 years and we both been giving each other the eye and laugh with each other and like the same things. Recently I have caught her looking at me in a way that suggests more than friends and one day I caught her staring at me at work. When I looked over she giggled and said sorry. I emailed her as a joke about her wonky eye (Joke we have with each other) She came back with she did not realise that she was staring at me until I clocked her (caught her).

So anyway fast forward and we got drunk last Friday and constantly we were talking and laughing, at a restaurant I thought I was banned from she kept looking at me in a good way when I was joking with the owner who was approving me. During this time some friends took the micky out of me and after a few I went quite, it was really because she said something that it kind of got to me.

So as we left the restaurant in the group of friends and her she persisted to ask me what was wrong I did not say much but it ended up with me walking down the high street with her putting her arm around my waist. She then bought a drink for me and we sat down, then my mates came over and gave me loads of shots. At one point she went mad at my friends telling them not to get me hammered.

Anyway woke up the next day and seen a text from her asking if I was all right, I text her some **** about being fine and trying to protect her but we text and bit more and cleared the air with what I said. Anyway come Monday she was distant from me and could not look me in the eye. So yesterday I text her and asked if everything was OK and I upset as could see this weird vibe. She came back with all OK and not to be paranoid.

So today I got the same vibe.

I am half tempted to think she is shy and am thinking of tomorrow getting her by herself and saying to her that I misread her signals recently and over the weekend I was thinking of asking her for a drink, but now realise with the weird vibe from her that that is a mistake and that I do not want to lose her as a friend.

Any suggestions if I should be direct? I am thinking of being direct as I have nothing to lose except her friendship.

Thing is is that if I do not say something I can only keep up the hello how are you doing thing for so long.

Homegirl 50 · Nov 23, 2011, 01:39 PM

Why can't you ask her out for a drink as a friend? If there is something there it will progress naturally.
I would suggest though to not get caught up in alcohol, have dinner.

Mikeyb4444 · Nov 23, 2011, 02:10 PM

Thank you homegirl for response. Is it not better for me to be upfront?

Homegirl 50 · Nov 23, 2011, 02:32 PM

What difference does it make? Why do you have to be up front. As her out you two can talk and if the "up front," door opens walk through it, if not, get to know each other.
You don't have to push every button. Take it slow and allow things to progress naturally.

Mikeyb4444 · Nov 23, 2011, 02:45 PM

Well I think she already knows, she was already flirting with me before until Friday so she must know. I think I shoukd clear the air and just tell her. If she does like it then yeah cool. If not then we are Friends and I know to move on as she is the main focus of me now.

Homegirl 50 · Nov 23, 2011, 04:38 PM

If you are sure she was flirting with you until Friday, perhaps the first thing you need to do is find out what happened.

talaniman · Nov 23, 2011, 04:58 PM

Why not see if she is interest on going for a few proper dates with you before you go with the upfront confession of feelings.

That leaves you both some wiggle room to decline without being awkward. If dating goes well for a few months, then you may have a chance at something more. If she refuses a few times, save the upfront confessions.

Good friends flirt all the time, so that means nothing.