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varman · Nov 20, 2011, 08:51 PM

Please I need your replies.

talaniman · Nov 20, 2011, 09:05 PM

Why don't you tell us YOUR story?

varman · Nov 21, 2011, 08:25 PM

I am a tamil boy and the girl whom I love is a reddy from tirupati... we did our undergraduation together and now I am in US doing my masters... she is working in banglore... I have been loving her for 10 months... she rejected me at first saying her family won't accept... at this moment she didn't have any spl feelings for me... months passed... I kept loving her deeply and she was able to realise it... seeing this she also started liking me... but the problem now is she don't want to take risk and is scared to accept my love... she wants me just as a close friend for all her life... but I know she says this oly because of fear for her family... I myself asked her openly whthr she loves me or not... she gave a kind of positive reply but didn't accept it directly... as I said before she is not ready to take risk and come forward... I can't just see her as my close friend... I am seeing her as my wife... but she is reluctant... so I decided to stop talking to her... because when she is not ready to take step I can't build my own castles... I ll not be able to bear the pain when she comes with her marriage invitation... so its been 2 months since I stopped talking to her... I stopped talking to her with oly one hope in my mind that she will miss me and feel my absence... so that she ll accept my love later... now I am waiting for her with a blind hope... I seriously donno how long this wait ll be... but no matter how long it is... at end I hope she comes back and accepts my love for her...

talaniman · Nov 21, 2011, 11:33 PM

Cultural traditions aside, I don't think 10 months is a sufficient time to know a person well enough to commit their lives to a person. To be fair and honest, I do not see starting a family conflict over a 10 month acquaintance. Especially given she sees you as a friend, but you want a wife. My friend I think you have to show a lot more than just intense feelings if you think she will seriously consider giving herself to you completely.

That has to be a lot longer than 10 months my friend. For now, I can only wish you luck, but caution you on waiting for her to change her mind, because I feel this will distract you from seeing, and taking other, better opportunities to be happy in your life, or building the castles you so seek. At least you have chosen to take a step back, which is a wise thing to do, and see if she does indeed miss you enough to consider what you have to offer, and make a decision.

Build your castles without her as the queen, and in time I think, one will make an appearance in your life.

varman · Nov 22, 2011, 06:09 AM

10 months is not a period during which we were together... as I said we did our undergraduation together and we were together for at least 4 years... :) anyway thnks for the reply... do pray that I get her :)