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J_9 · Nov 18, 2011, 07:44 PM

Does she have any medical conditions that may have her believing she cannot conceive naturally?

melro123 · Nov 18, 2011, 07:47 PM

Yes, she doen't want to have sex until marriage so this becomes dark due to her resistance to marry and have our own kids.
Do you think another woman deserves me to make her happy for the rest of the life? Or should I stay for a while and see what's going on?

Wondergirl · Nov 18, 2011, 07:49 PM

When would the two of you marry?

So she does or does not have fertility concerns?

melro123 · Nov 18, 2011, 07:50 PM

Well, that what she told me..
She has all her organs working properly, no she isn't taking any medication.

I know this is a counseling and no treatment would start without madical prescription.

Wondergirl · Nov 18, 2011, 07:55 PM

So, as far as you know, she could get pregnant on her wedding night.

The main problem seems to be, do you want to wait for her to decide to marry you. Is that correct?

melro123 · Nov 18, 2011, 08:00 PM

Well this is another thing she says she's able to start a fertility treament first, she trust in it.
Ok. As I told you before we're living in USA just for this year so when we're back she wants to take 02 or 03 years more to make trips and study, so she will turns 35 or 36.
I told her I want to get marry by dec. 2012 and have kids as soon as possible but she's saying that isn't the proper age to have babies.
I tell you that I'm at the edge of the line pretty close to warp up everything and look for another girl, she's special but has that problem.

May I have your e-mail to get in touch just in case future inquiries come to my life?

Wondergirl · Nov 18, 2011, 08:04 PM

How old is the other woman and would she marry you?

Please post again on this thread as time goes on, so others may see the progress of your situation.

melro123 · Nov 18, 2011, 08:04 PM

Might be, but the thing it's time it's running and don't see any light through out the tunnel.
She has other plans for next year and the possibility to get marry and have kids it's not clear.

I told her about my feelings but still a little skepticed.

Wondergirl · Nov 18, 2011, 08:10 PM

You have to do what is best for you.

melro123 · Nov 18, 2011, 08:10 PM

Well, I have other options with women younger than me but haven't had everything I lived with this one.
One of those it's an american girl so I can get the residency of the US.
And another in El Salvador(it means I'm not unfaithful) they are around me watching what I'm doing.

Excuse me, are you asking me to do the best I can or are telling me that I have done the best from me and definetely have to look over another woman?

Wondergirl · Nov 18, 2011, 08:17 PM

I am saying you must look at the entire situation and make a decision eventually. Ask yourself if you are willing to wait for this woman. If you are not, what then?

melro123 · Nov 18, 2011, 08:20 PM

Yep..
She's special but I must to have kids to keep alive, I had a terrible life without care, have seen horrible things which could be cure just with a woman like that but this is almost the end of everything.

Wondergirl · Nov 18, 2011, 08:23 PM

Stay in touch and let us know what you decide to do.

melro123 · Nov 18, 2011, 08:24 PM

Where? At this very place or where?

Wondergirl · Nov 18, 2011, 08:29 PM

Yes, here on this thread would be the best.

melro123 · Nov 18, 2011, 08:33 PM

I don't know if you'll be the same person but anyway I'll let you know how's the relation is ongoing/..

Thank you so so much.

Wondergirl · Nov 18, 2011, 08:41 PM

I've been here for over four years, so I plan to be the same person -- unless I die or something. I will watch for your posts.

talaniman · Nov 18, 2011, 10:53 PM

Sorry guy, but this doesn't smell right. I can see waiting for sex until you are married but are you living together already, or did I misread?

Secondly there is no guarantee of babies or a smooth swift pregnancy at any age, and that's for a doctor to help you with.. But what throws me off is this fertility issue, and why she would need treatments. There has to be a reason, like maybe she tried before and couldn't get pregnant.

Whatever the reason she has this knowledge, I think I am more worried about your commitment than anything, as being a father is a gift, and a big commitment, but should take a back seat until the RIGHT female comes along that you can commit to, or there will be many problems to interfere in that fatherhood.

Those are the thing that has to come first, and you should really consider seeing YOUR female as more than just a baby outlet, or trust me, you doom your unborn to many of the problems that you say you have gone through. In addition, just looking to make any female your baby mama without being sure, is a disaster, and you have already said that making babies is your goal. To be honest that's backward, as any female no matter her health can have complications, and hardships with childbearing, and you would leave if it doesn't go right, as planned?

No guy, wait for the right one who tells all, shares all, and YOU do the same, before you go with the baby making stuff. Just to get to your original question. Opinions vary but men and woman can make babies into their late 60's/70's, with good health and the right medical care, and advice. So forget the age/time limits, wait until you find the one who will be a good life companion to you whether she has children or not, or you are asking for a lot of trouble.

Heck, you may as well be sowing your wild oats now, because waiting for this one sounds to complicated to even think of marrying her, just my opinion.I think you take a lot more time, and get a LOT MORE INFORMATION and facts about this female, or any other if you so choose, BEFORE you make her a baby mama, or a life partner.

Like most things in life, its easy to get into, but hard as hell to get out of, and many men have gone into this with high hopes, and good intentions, only to cut and run when the reality, or some other disaster hits. You end up without the life partner kids, and hate each other when you find out that you hate each others guts.

You think its an easy thing to leave because a woman cannot have children? Wait until she has 6, and then try running away. It ain't that simple at all!

melro123 · Nov 19, 2011, 12:08 PM

Well, I don't know what your culture it's but ours it's for sure different from yours, why do you have to wait until you're a senior you won't have forces and adrenaline enough to play and hang out with your kids why too old?

I think you lost some details, no we aren't living together but she told me she has fertility problems that what she said, also I respect her rule no sex until marriage but how do I know she has that problem.
Fatherhood it's not a goal for me it's just the fuel to recharge my life hope, besides I've seen so many guys who die before get marry or achieve studies I won't be one of those.
What's more important to you trips or marry and have a family?

talaniman · Nov 19, 2011, 12:17 PM

but she told me she has fertility problems that what she said, also I respect her rule no sex until marriage but how do I know she has that problem.

You mean you haven't asked? I would have!

Yes my culture is different. Here we have MANY who have spent their lives being married, MANY times, and having MANY children.

Once is enough for me however.