[Wiggert]

Before we married, we were on a trip and having fun in the bar, I left her at the table with a guy we just met to go to the bar, when I looked back she was standing up, leaning over to give him a kiss. I said her name loudly and asked her a question so she would stop and know I seen her.

Several years later we marry. 5 years in I find out she has never changed her life insurance policy to me, she left it her ex-husband as the beneficiary. About 4 years in she was an overnight chaperone for her daughters band, they went down town and stayed overnight. I went to pick her up when they got back,. I was sitting in the driver seat of the car and the hatchback was open, another male chaperone came over and gave her a BIG hug and said it was very nice chaperoning with you and under her voice she said :my husbands in the car" he replied huh? and she repeated it, I got out not sure what to make and he appeared very uncomfortable.

A year before we were married her daughter had a school concert, when we left we walked by her ex-husband who gave her a VERY strange smile and she did a five finger wiggly wave to him which was SOOOoooo strange cause she always talked how she HATED him. I asked what that was all about and she aid in this little cute voice "I don't know,. he must have had a Verrrry nice afternoon" then giggled a little and turned around and walked away.

Then finally the other day, I get into her car and see a hand print on the windshield, it is upside down and very close to the top of the windshield. I asked her about it and she claims her nephew who was in the car must have done it. It was in such a position that it only could have been bade from someone sitting backwards in the seat with their hand over their head and against the window. She is always very nice but, says she loves me everyday, takes great care of the house and is never mean or rude to me. We used to have sex but now she NEVER initiates it and 1/2 the time when I try she's too tired. So from the surface and from the outside,. what do you think is going on?

[odinn7]

This all seems like something might be going on. The fact that you're asking indicates that you deep down know it is. None of this by itself is actual proof but when added up, it sure does look bad. There is an off chance that it is all coincidence and you are looking into it too much but I doubt it. I dealt with a cheating spouse and I know that generally when you get an idea that something is going on, it is.

Maybe you want to be sure before you do anything though but if it was me, and things are really like you say, then I would consider that she's messing around on you.

[talaniman]

You sure do have a circumstantial case for cheating, and I would sure hope you tell her what you think, and let her know she is not trusted by you.

Then you go from there.