[John_Minihan]

So, I met this girl when I was like 12. Didn't really talk much, but around 2 years later we started hanging out. So I started liking her more. So a year later we start dating so we are both 15 by now. (I think kids who are like10 and dating are weird).

Anyway, we date for 2 months and its all going great and stuff, we see each other a bunch, we didn't go to the same school but we still hung out a lot, and so about a week from homecoming (that we had already made plans for and everything) some new guy from Montana move to town. And he's seems an all right normal guy does ROTC, failed freshmen year, likes goofing around.

She thinks he's cool and stuff, so I think what ever its just a guy who is cool, not my place to say no talking to other guys at all. But then one of our friends tells me they are acting a little weird around each other. I see he is in a relationship on Face book. I think well at least he won't do anything.

Then 3 days before homecoming, she left me, saying it had nothing to do with him at all. Next day he sends a bunch of roses asking her to homecoming. She said yes. I didn't know about this till I got there, with one of my friends. So they are making out like all through the night. I act like I don't care and luckily my friend from like 1st grade knows what I look like when I'm about to snap. So he pulled me out and we went and hung out at the football field, and went back to his house.

So the next few days every one thinks I'm depressed and dead, (seeing as I always seem depressed I must have been grayer than a tomb stone). I tell them all I'm fine. Next year those two are still dating, I haven't dated anyone since. I never really dated in the first place. I think I'm fine so I move along with life. But just this week I have realized I have been hiding myself from myself, and now it hurts a lot more. I still want to be with her, but I don't think it will ever happen.

[JudyKayTee]

What type of advice are you looking for? How to get over her?

It seems to me that you can find comfort in her lack of honesty where you relationship was involved. It appears she didn't have the courtesy to tell you she was seeing someone else. You were treated badly.

That doesn't mean all girls/women will treat you badly or that you deserved what you got.

I would stick with not having contact with her and I would look for other avenues to either occupy my time or meet other people. Breaking up is difficult and it's like any other grief - it has peaks and valleys for a very long time.

I'd be comforted by knowing she wasn't an honest person and eventually this would have caused problems.

[John_Minihan]

Thanks. I guess I thought I was done with it you know? Well I think ill take your advice and just move along

[JudyKayTee]

The feelings you have for her might come back over and over again. That's unfortunately part of the healing process.

[mmresd]

Give it time, you will forget her and be able to move on. I personally think kids who are like 15 and dating are weird. Stay single, focus on school, and you will be OK, stay busy. She is too young for you to expect anything serious or long term, at that age she is just testing the waters.

[talaniman]

Forget her by having fun with others. Never know what can happen with a cute friend, or acquaintance