
Originally Posted by
kirsty
my and my ex met at the beginning of uni four years ago...we dates for a couple of months then he split up with me, then again for a couple of months then again he split up with me then for 9months then he split up with me then for two months and surprise surprise again he split up with me! in the ending week of every part of our realtionship he has acted very weird and suspicious and he wud split up with me over something very silly...a few days later i begin to notice things and eventually find out it is another girl....it never lasts long and hes back in my ear saying the nicest sweetest things and assuring me 'this time its for real...im just scared of commintment but i only wanna be with you...this time il change...this time...!'
All that is another way of saying several things. They are as follows.
1. He can’t be trusted.
2. He doesn’t love you.
3. He doesn’t like you.
4. He doesn’t respect you.
5. He sees you as his back up plan.
6. You have taught him you are his back up plan.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
when we hav the relationsip it is almost perfect we live together...hav great sex make eachother laugh care for eachother...we no eachother inside out...like soulmates...
Like soul mates who look for other people. Those are actually cheaters. Soul mates are on another level and this relationship no matter how long it’s gone isn’t a soul mate relationship.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
we'r very affectionate and flirty all the time yet give eachother space and alone time...we allow eachother to go out clubbing whenever and sometimes even go together...when we'r together u can see happiness even if i dont smile...i love him!
I can tell you do. But he doesn’t share that same love back for you.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
this time round a few things hav happened and i dont no how to handle it all and how to approach him! i miss him more than words can say and i love being his girlfrined and i do forgive him a lot
You forgive him too much. It’s one thing for a guy to make a mistake for hurt your feelings unintentionally but he’s done just the opposite, several times.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
i thought fine we'r not together he can do what he wants!
I agree with you, he can do what he wants but why are you subjecting yourself to this kind of emotional instability.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
tuesday came and he had a course in london he came back early and i found out he met up with this girl for a drink...who btw has a boyfriend!
You mean he doesn’t value commitment? Kristy I’m not surprised. He didn’t value his own commitment with you so why would he value another girls.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
he lied to me tho and sed he had been in london all day! i thought wotever i just dont care anymore!....now i have found out the girl who he met works at a skool and the number i saw on valentines day wen we were still togetherr was hers...or could have been one of his mates that works with her!
It was hers. He’s a cheater. He’s been a cheater for years and you’ve known this because he’s done this to you at least 4 times prior.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
i don't no wot to think or believe...i can't tell him that i looked through his fone on valentines day because he will turn it around on me and say well u shud trust me n that he was just calling his mate....
Well if you have to have the conversation why not say “I can’t trust you because you have a history of dumping me for other women.” But instead of the conversation why not just finally dump him and leave him for good.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
who by the way is just someone he knows through other people!...he will cover it up!..
Yes he will cover it up. He’s lied for years to you.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
he is very gud with words!
To be honest I question that. You’ve already caught him dumping you 4 times for other women. How good can he be? It’s not his fault you keep taking him back.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
i just dont no whether im being too paranoid...also i no he will ask me out again and i don't no how to answer that...especially wen i want to be with him so badly!
You say no Kristy. You say that dumping you for another woman is where you draw the line. You say this behavior is self destructive, deceiving and disrespectful.
I’ll tell you what will happen again if you take him back. The same things he always says.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
i wudnt really have cared if he had met up with this girl but the valentines day thing has furiated me especially because he was so late from wk...he never has been before!
Are you out of your mind? You don’t care that he met another girl? No wonder he uses you. That’s so sad for me to read that. Why do you not value yourself enough to have a man that will treat you better? Why do you allow this kind of behavior to continue?

Originally Posted by
kirsty
im in love with him and miss our relationship more than anything...
Apparently even more then yourself respect and dignity. You can get that back by leaving this guy for good.

Originally Posted by
kirsty
at the moment im being my normal frinedly self...wot do i do now...please help me because all this thinking is taking up all my time...im going crazy i swear!
sorry for the essay!
I think your crazy for allowing this to continue. He’s not going to change. He doesn’t even like you. He uses you a plaything between his other women projects. I rather be alone then to have someone like this person in my life.