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I miss my emotionally abusive ex-boyfriend.
I am in an amazing relationship right now with the guy of my dreams. I know I want to spend my life with him and I have never been happier. However, I am at college with my ex. Every time I see him, or talk to him, I can't stop thinking about him. He is constantly on my mind, and constantly in my life here at school. I miss him so much and everything reminds me of him, and while this happens I talk less and less to my current boyfriend.
It kills me to see him with another girl and actually makes me cry. I don't know what to do. I think I might just be addicted to the drama, pain, and stress with my ex. Our relationship was so incredibly intense and to have it end (because of how horrible he was to me) still upsets me. He is not a good person, and was a horrible boyfriend, but at the same time he was my best friend and I spent every single day and night with him for a year and a half, and now I just don't know what to do. Especially since our lives here are so intertwined. Please help! |
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I think a few things are going on here, the main one is your disconnect from your boyfriend, which in itself is a stressful situation to adjust to, seeing your ex so much, and keeping old feelings of happier times stirred up, and the being alone with your thoughts so much, all of which indicate that very little time was spent actually mourning, healing, or rebuilding between relationships.
The solution of course is focusing on your own happiness, as you build, and enjoy the challenges of your present life. Make some friends, and get some activities you enjoy, as you do rebuild your own esteem, and self reliance. |
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Listen to what your question is?
You are happy with someone, yet like the emotional abuse from an ex? Get your priorities straight. Maybe you rushed into someone else without thinking, being ready. Tell your boyfriend all of this. If you really want to be honest. See what he says... Exs are exs period. No longer your concern. They can do whatever they want. Stop looking. "He is not a good person, and was a horrible boyfriend" Are you horrible too? |
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