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remoz · Nov 7, 2011, 03:35 PM

I am engaged with an American girl. She has got almost all personal characteristics I would like my wife has, but the only problem is she's quit her job and now she lives with me and is almost dependent on me. It was no problem at the beginning, but recently the burden going to get heavier and makes me more stressed and doubtful about my decision. Could you please let me know how come I can discuss this matter out with her? Should I wait until she finds herself something to do or I should directly discuss this issue with her?
I appreciate your suggestions.

JudyKayTee · Nov 7, 2011, 03:48 PM

Where are you?

At any rate - talk to her. You are engaged. Presumably you talk about problems in life and your relationship. This is one of those problems.

It's time to have an honest discussion.

remoz · Nov 7, 2011, 04:06 PM

Thank you Judy,

remoz · Nov 15, 2011, 06:04 PM

HI,
I have been engaged with a girl for more than two months. It's a little less then two months that we live together. Before 10 days ago, I still was in love with her more or less as the same day I met her for the first time. But, I am not sure why this love has recently decreased and I don't have that initial (pure) passion/enthusiasm for her anymore. Since, she was the first girl I fell in love with and I proposed to her not a long time after, I am not sure my feeling is natural or something is going wrong in my relationship? Is there anyway to get that initial feeling back?

Thanks for your help.

JudyKayTee · Nov 15, 2011, 06:13 PM

Sometimes time changes your feelings, particularly if it's infatuation or something else. Love in the best of circumstances needs work; if it's infatuation I don't think the relationship has a chance. Does she feel the same way about you?

Love is not about pure passion/enthusiasm - it's about companionship and mutual interests and mutual respect.

What has changed? Has living together changed things?

EDIT: This sounded familiar and now I know why - https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marria...em-610278.html

Please don't keep opening new threads on the same subject. I took the time to answer this sincerely, only to find out I've already addressed it once before.

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