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raytay2424 · Nov 6, 2011, 10:38 PM

Me and my boyfriend are planing on having sex soon. Well what I mean is we are both virgins but we have came really close before. I know HOW it works but he wants me to do most of the work, and what I'm really asking is how do girls make love to a guy?

J_9 · Nov 6, 2011, 11:00 PM

RayTay, may I ask how old you are? Our answers will vary according to your age.

J_9 · Nov 6, 2011, 11:06 PM

I have found in another thread you posted that you are 14, so I have moved your question from the Adult Sexuality board (which is for adults 18 and above) to the Teen board where it is more appropriate.

At your age making love should not be an option. Pregnancy can and does happen no matter what protection you use.

Are you prepared for the possibility of being a singe teen mother?

ScottGem · Nov 7, 2011, 04:38 AM

MEN make love to WOMEN. BOYS fool around with GIRLS (and vice versa).

NO ONE Should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are physically, emotionally and financially prepared to have a child. You do not qualify in any of those three.

Sex is not a recreational sport. It's something that should only be shared between people with a long term committed relationship. At 14 you have hardly had time to form such a relationship.

raytay2424 · Nov 7, 2011, 06:42 AM

15

J_9 · Nov 7, 2011, 06:45 AM

14 or 15 you are not ready for the adult consequences of such an adult decision.

raytay2424 · Nov 7, 2011, 07:51 AM

I am 14

ScottGem · Nov 7, 2011, 07:52 AM

So why did you say 15 in response #5? Either way the answer still stands. You are too young.

raytay2424 · Nov 7, 2011, 08:00 AM

I am 14, I was on my iPod, and it is cracked so it doesn't always put what I want it to. I have really been thinking about this. And I am afraid. And all of my friends have lost there vicinities, and I want to know what it is like. They always say how much fun it is.

JudyKayTee · Nov 7, 2011, 08:03 AM

Lost their vicinities?

Do you mean virginities?

If so, yes, you're too young both emotionally and physically. You do not have the means to support and raise a child and that's a consequence of sex.

raytay2424 · Nov 7, 2011, 08:07 AM

Like I said I'm on my iPod. But yes I mean virginities... It is the whole I want to and I don't care thing I am going through right now I think. I really want to.

JudyKayTee · Nov 7, 2011, 08:15 AM

If you already know you're going to have sex with this boy, why are you even asking for opinions.

Scott put it best - girl children have sex with boy children. Female adults have sex with male adults. It's as simple as that.

No one here is going to give instructions to a 14 year old concerning how to be a "good" sexual partner.

Aurora_Bell · Nov 7, 2011, 08:52 AM

Raytay, once you lose your virginity, it's never coming back. I wish someone would have been there for me when I started experimenting with boys. I wish I could have saved my virginity for someone a little more special than who I chose to give mine up to.

Aside from the scare of STD's and pregnancy, how would you feel if your parents found out? I know girls your age who are engaging in sex, only to have their names run through the mud by other girls and their boyfriends who have decided that they weren't really in love with them after 3 months of dating. Having sex is serious thing. You need to think long and hard about this. Once you go there, you can never go back. And you should be scared. It means you're not ready.

JudyKayTee · Nov 7, 2011, 09:30 AM

Originally Posted by Aurora_Bell

Raytay, once you lose your virginity, it's never coming back. I wish someone would have beent here forme when I started experimenting with boys. I wish I could have saved my virginity for someone a little more special than who I chose to give mine up to.
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Wow - excellent. A voice of experience is always worth 10 times what anyone else says.

Great response.

raytay2424 · Nov 7, 2011, 01:09 PM

Thank you, it I=has been something I'm always curious about but I guess everyone is in away.. But I will save it for someone special, I think I know who that is.

ScottGem · Nov 7, 2011, 02:27 PM

Originally Posted by raytay2424

But i will save it for someone special, i think i know who that is.

At 14 it is unlikely that you DO know who that is. You may think you do, but I can guarantee you don't.

Aurora_Bell · Nov 7, 2011, 03:31 PM

Either way, I am just glad you are reconsidering it. It's kind of a big deal!

J_9 · Nov 7, 2011, 07:23 PM

I'm glad you are reconsidering too. Do you know what I do for a living? I deliver babies. I had a girl today who was just 16 years old. She already has herpes (that is a permanent STD, it will NEVER go away). She also ended up having a C-Section (cutting her belly to get the baby out).

Are you prepared for those consequences?

Your friends may say it's fun and that it's the bees knees, but there are consequences to those actions that they haven't been told about. At least you are smart enough to ask before you jump in head first.

raytay2424 · Nov 7, 2011, 07:33 PM

Thank you!! You guys are really helpful... I think I will always be nervus but I'm not going to do it anytime soon. And I was thinking about it and my mom has always told me AFTER you have an education,and MONEY, then you can have a baby but until then I better be an angle. Lol which I'm not because I do other stuff just haven't went "all the way" yet.

J_9 · Nov 7, 2011, 07:35 PM

Yes, an education is VERY important. Do you know the statistics of unwed mothers? You do realize that the guy RARELY sticks around right? It's next to impossible to raise a child and go to school. Most girls end up on welfare and have tons of Baby Momma Drama.

You don't want that. You are too smart for that!