[jezzysmommy]

My fiancŽ and I live together in my house. We have 2 children of our own and my fiancŽ has two daughters and a step son from a previous relationship. His other children's mother contacted us and asked if the kids could stay with us until she got on her feet. Before I agreed I told her I needed her to provide the food from her foodstamps which is for the children and a power of attorney and we needed to enroll them in school Monday (this was a saturday). She agreed to my stipulations and went on her merry way. Instead of granting us temporary guardianship and allowing us to complete all residency documentation she forged a lease stating she rented my address from some imaginary landlord. She hasn't yet done one thing we agreed upon prior to arrangements. I am the only working one and it all solely relys on me. She hasn't given any money for food or winter clothing which they have none of. Can I file abandonment or what do I need to do? I have tried talking with her and she feels it has nothing to do with me but I was struggling providing for our little family of 4 now a family of seven.. I am pulling my hair out thinking of the financial burden. Please help these children need me she is not a fit mother.

[ITgeek]

I would contact social services, they can help. If she is getting government assistance and doesn't even have the children they can grant you that assistance. Don't be afraid to tell on her because at the end of the day your sweat takes care of all parties involved. I would be at social services at 8:59 am!! You have to do what's best for these kids box she isn't. If u go soon they can help with Christmas too (so will some fire departments, and salvation army). Get all the help you can and if need be try to get granted full custody. Good luck

[ScottGem]

If your fiancée has joint legal custody, then you do not need a POA or temporary guardianship. He has legal rights to make decisions about his children. Whoops forgot about the step son. Yes you would need temp guardianship for the step son.

However, if there are court orders giving her primary custody and for child support, then HE has to go to court to modify those orders. She can be required to pay support to him.

I would NOT go to social services yet. First, you need to establish custody. Once that is done, if you feel you qualify for assistance, then you can go for food stamps or whatever assistance.