[nora03]

There is this guy, he has a girl-friend but I have always liked him. A couple month before I left for camp this summer we started seeing each other and eventually we fell in love... When I left we kept on texting each other for the whole 3 weeks I was there. It was cute texts, and they always finished with I love you or you mean the world to me type thing. I miss his hugs kisses and all that. When I came back, he was not as attached, we saw each other and of course showed our love but it was a diff feeling... Then he said that our thing could not work anymore because he loved his girl friend, like true love. After a couple weeks there we were again together showing each other our love.. More and more we started doing it again, and we kind of had a thing.. Although he does not want to tell me if there is or there is not a thing, it buggs him that I might have a thing with this other guy that he does not know. I tried confronting him about it but he won't tell me.. The last things that hapenned he was the one to start... Can someone tell me what could possibly be going on? Trick to figure out and maybe how to get him to see that I'm better then his girlfriend?

[0rphan]

Currently, he has a girlfriend, so you really need to step back.I think at the moment he is a bit mixed up in his head,obviously he has feelings for both of you,but he has said that he does really love his girlfriend, so you have to take that on board and leave them to it.If for what ever reason their relationship does not work out, them it won't be because of you pressuring him all the time.

The best thing that you can do is carry on with your day to day routines,let them get on with theirs,wait see what happens.
You actually leaving him alone,may be enough for him to see that he misses you.
Have no contact what so ever for a while,if you bump into him then just say... hi, and move on.
The longer you can be away from him the better for both of you.

This will be his decision should his relationship fail,do not intervene,let it take it's course naturally.

[Cat1864]

Please define 'showing each other our love' and 'doing it again' and please give your ages.

I think you need to stop allowing him to play games with you. He has a girlfriend and that makes him off-limits and unavailable. That he is cheating on her by seeing you is a huge red warning sign that he is immature and doesn't know what love is ('true love' or not.) I don't think you want to be the one worried about him talking to other females and cheating on you.

I would also not get involved with this other male until you have mentally and emotionally moved on from this person.

Take some time to decide what you want in a relationship (loyalty and faithfulness are very good to have on the list.) After you have let go of the past you can look for someone who shares your expectations in a relationship.

This male is not worth your time if he can't remain faithful to one female. Take care of yourself and good luck letting him and his concept of a relationship go.

[whit17]

If he thinks there is not a thing between you, then he should not be jealous if you might have a thing with someone else. You have the right to like someone else and move on. He may be just confused with his feelings. Good luck, hun