[fredbehr]

Here is my problem, I am a manager of a company and have went out with 2 co-workers and 1 co-worker is attracted to me as I am to her. I asked her out on a date but she is scared that someone in the company will find out. I mentioned that we have to keep work and personal life separated. If I didn't work there she told me she would go out with me in a heart beat. But she rather go out in a group of co-workers. She does things by herself ( going to movies alone, dinner by herself, etc.) most of the time and I do the same thing. She thinks that if higher bosses find out we will be both fired. I told her that once we walk out the door at night and leave the property we are no longer at work and we should be able to establish a connection. She is afraid and wants to not take the chance. We both work a crazy shift where it doesn't give a lot of time to meet other people. Shift is 2pm-midnight. I tried to assure her that it is are life's and no one should know unless to take someone. Not sure if that is good advice. I have not pursued this any farther? She still wants to go out with me her and another co-work like before.

[Fr_Chuck]

She has a lot more common sense than you do. Sorry, once you walk out the door you are still under company rules and it is very common for people to be fired for some activities when not at work.

If your company has a formal rule about dating people under you, then once you start, one of you will need to transfer to another shift at least.

It is never good to date where you work.

[talaniman]

Listen to her and why make work a living hell if she dumps you after a month and breaks your heart.

Then work and home will be miserable. Besides, its against the rules so why jeapordize your job, and hers for a few dates?

[1confused1]

Don't you guys have an HR department? They would be able to tell you the policy on dating coworkers. Now is she a coworker or subordinate? If you are a manager that manages her, I would say it is against company policy, whether the relationship is after work or not. If she is a manager as well, then I would say to see HR or consult your employee handbook about fraternization outside of the workplace. You say to keep work and personal life separate, but you are not doing that be DATING your COWORKER. If you both work in different departments and have no contact with each other through out the day I would say it would be fine, but to date, have a personal intimate relationship with someone and then see them all day (or night) at work? Sounds like a little much, especially what happens if you two get into a personal argument? Seems it would be kind of awkward when you two still have to see one another at work.

Leave it alone, if you don't have a enough time to find women outside of the office go on an internet dating site or invest in a match maker.