[alanap]

I need your help please sorry I don't write too much english but I would do my best, I been married for 11 yrs now about 12 month ago my husband for the first time ever decide to act up he meet the group of people who I didn't like at all but because his not a friend person I though hey maybe I can give them a chance, he stared going out and meet this girl too, in which broke us off we split up while at the same time I was pregnant he told me he need it space because he was confuse which I did, to make the story short he stared going out with this girl but he will still call me to check on me and our son at one point you can see his how miserable he was, when I give born to our 2nd child he was there all the way but not leaving with us, he will go every night to check on us he keep telling me he wanted to get back but he didn't know why he couldn't something was holding him back, his a great dad and guy he don't smoke or drink is not a person who don't like to be going out very family man basically he left every one in shock by leaving the house we know each other since high school never cheating took really good care of his family and is love by every one in my family his was like the perfect man any woman can dream of, now the bad news on dec 2010 the girl he was going out with call to give us the worse news ever that she was pregnant by him, I don't know what to do he wants to go to counseling and do couples therapy and work thing out but I don't know how to he broke the relation ship just because he wanted to see what was out there with out thinking in the consequence and now that a baby on the way please help me my tow kids now have a half brother and I don't know what to do I know is not the baby's fault (AA)

[JudyKayTee]

In your heart what do you want to do? Put the time and energy into saving your marriage? Walk away? If you think there's a chance you can work things out, yes, I certainly would try. You have children to think about. If you think this is not "one mistake," then I'd end it now.

And keep in mind you will have to live looking at his out of wedlock child, and that's not going to be easy. Granted it is definitely not the child's fault - but it will be difficult.