[jojob25]

My boyfriend of 6 months and his 11 year old daughter just recently moved in with me. My boyfriend and his ex have been divorced for almost a year, but I know his daughter had difficulty with it. His daughter has a lot of anger towards her mother and seems to love her father (my boyfriend) more than anything.

I met his daughter 2 months ago when she came to live with my boyfriend for this next year and recently, because he thought he was going to lose his job and he wants to be with me, he decided they would move in. His daughter seems to really like me but I'm wondering if some of her behavior is being caused by jealousy of me. More importantly, I'm feeling very awkward and weird over their relationship and some of the physical interactions I have been witnessing. I'm wondering if I'm crazy for feeling this way.

His daughter is 11 years old but looks like she is 16. She is very well endowed and has more of a "woman's" figure than a child's figure. Not that I'm worried because I do as well and my boyfriend is very attracted to me. But, I have also seen her curious with her body which has been reinforced by the things her father has told me. I'm guessing this is natural for a girl who just started to have her period.

Since they've moved in with me, I've been able to see their physical interaction more closely. What really bothers me is the fact that he will lie down at night with her in her bed as she is going to sleep. I don't know what goes on, because the door is always closed to her room. I don't honestly believe he is doing anything inappropriate but now I'm starting to question some of the other things I've seen between them. The other day, he was standing in a public place behind her with his arms around her waist, right below her boobs, just as one might stand with their girlfriend or wife. It was very awkward for me and outright inappropriate. I know he looks at her as if she is still his 5 year old little girl, but I've reminded him that she is now a hormonal 11 year old with a woman's figure and what might have been OK at 5 is now borderline inappropriate.

He also has held her hand when she sat behind his seat in the car as I drove, holding her hand and stroking it as he does to mine. I'm not sure if I'm blowing this out of proportion, but it is making me uncomfortable. I told him my feelings and he said things were going to change. Now I'm questioning every little thing I'm seeing, wondering if there is an inappropriateness going on. I think I'm going crazy and it's making me sick for the fact I'm even thinking it.

Anyone have any thoughts?

[Chocodrip07]

I'm twenty five years old, married for the last four years, and everyday after we say our prayers I hug my dad and kiss him. Whenever I'm upset he'll console me by putting his arm around me. But lying in bed together with the door closed is really odd, and hugging her in public is also not good. I know that you're in an awkward position and you cannot confront him about it.

Tell him that she's a woman now and that he shouldn't lie down next to her. Talk to her, become close to her and may be she'll share something with you. Hope this helps.