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rodeogirl2you · Feb 18, 2007, 05:49 PM

oops forgot one more thing. We have demanded drug tests on him. They are even hair folicle test which show drugs for up to 3 months in your system. Unfortunately he's finding a way around that too. The drugees have come up with some kind of concausion that they can shampoo their hair with the night before the test and it gives a negative test. He's told people "I'll screw her everytime!" We go back to court March 14th and I'm going to have my attorney ask for another random hair test plus a blood test. It's worth a try!

RubyPitbull · Feb 18, 2007, 06:15 PM

Well, RG, it sounds like you are doing everything that you can. As frustrating as your interview went, you have got to remember that the PC deals with custody problems all the time. There are a lot of people out there that will lie to them and do everything they can to make the ex's life a living hell just out of spite. So, they have their rules and regulations they have to go by. It is a big problem when you have a situation like yours. She doesn't know who is lying and who is telling the truth.

I think depending on the outcome on March 14, you have a good idea. If it is not in your favor, your attorney should immediately request the judge order your ex to take the tests that day. I have never heard about that shampoo that you are talking about. It is pretty hard to mess with a follicle test but I guess anything is possible nowadays.

You just have to put your trust in God and keep on praying as you have. We will too.

FYI, When you come back here after the decision has been made, I might not be around for a few days. But, don't worry. First chance I get, I will check the boards and get back to you as soon as I can. :)

rodeogirl2you · Feb 18, 2007, 07:24 PM

Thanks Ruby. Hope all is well for you. Thanks for the support!

robynhgl · Feb 19, 2007, 05:08 AM

Hey Girl! I don't know how you can keep your sanity! God Bless Ya!

First of all--if you're not doing it yet--start right away. Keep a journal, write everything down, along with the time and date. If you have a cam-corder, if the kids say anything get them on video-tape. This would be cool if you did it during and after 'pick-ups'---the kids will blurt out things that have happened and getting it on a recording at the time is important. Journals are admissible in court also.

If your ex really is dealing drugs--the police are probably 'aware' of him already. Here's the kicker--if YOU call it in--YOU look like an ex with an axe to grind. If someone else reports this to the police--they will take it much more seriously.

I hate to say it--but sometimes there is no justice in the justice system. I'm not sure what your attorney has done for you or how much you attorney has 'dug up', but I do know that past history is a good gauge of present and future behavior--especially if there is a pattern of behavior that has taken place over a period. If your ex has had any type of criminal past in regards to drugs or abuse these things can and should be brought into evidence.

I'm not sure what else to tell you--I pray that you and your children will be safe. You have the guts and the determination to see this through, which I find very admirable.

Take Care Lady!

rodeogirl2you · Feb 19, 2007, 05:02 PM

Robyn, thanks for writing. I've been keeping a journal for 2 years now and will continue to till the world runs out of paper. My little girl told me today that her dad was drinking with her and her brother yesterday and then drove with them. I called my attorney and the PC and told them. I told the PC that she needs to talk to my daughter. I won't even be in the room. That way maybe sis will tell even more. She was afraid to tell me yesterday cause "she doesn't want to get in trouble". She told me today though and we've had many talks about she won't get in trouble, and that she always needs to tell the truth no matter what. Thanks for the support like I said and I'll let y'all know how it goes.

rodeogirl2you · Mar 7, 2007, 05:07 PM

My daughter visited with the PC and I guess we won't know anything till we go back to court which is March 14th. She and my 2 year old went to his house over the weekend and my daughter called me and was upset said she wanted to come home. I talked to her dad and he was not very happy but said he'd meet me in town with her. She said nothing happened she just wanted to come home. When we got my 2 year old back that evening he came home with odd marks on his legs which have now turned into bruises. I took photos. Sun. morning my daughter flat out refused to go with him. I called my ex to let him know and proceeded to tell him I didn't fell comfortable with our son going by himself and he just hung up on me. I called the PC Monday moring and she said my ex had already called. She stated she may want to talk to my daughter again before we go to court. The kids didn't go Sunday. I guess I might be in contempt. Not sure if he's going to push it or not. Knowing him he will.

robynhgl · Mar 10, 2007, 09:34 AM

Contempt... when the children are at risk and they do not want to go, there's not much contempt involved.

You did the right thing taking pictures and calling the PC. Hopefully you or she can find out what had your daughter so upset.

Did your ex give ANY indication about why she was upset? Did he say anything about your son... ie. He fell, he was at the park playing on the equipment? Better for you NOT to tell him anything YOU see or know. Too easy for him to get a story down for the PC.

The best thing for you to do is to get plenty of rest and try not to stress too much. A calm and confident demaenor in court is good.

RubyPitbull · Mar 10, 2007, 04:59 PM

Hello ladies! Rodeogirl, I am in complete agreement with robynhgl. I know this is a tough time for you. But, it will be resolved soon enough. I will stop by here at some point next weekend. I am praying for you girl! :)

rodeogirl2you · Mar 11, 2007, 01:51 PM

My ex said he has no idea how the marks have happened. Well if he didn't do it, which we all know he did, the where was he when my child "got hurt"?? My daughter did tell me why she was so upset. She stated that she had heard him and his deceased wife fighting numerous times and he was "mean to her and made her cry" she said she thinks that her dad was mad at her and ran her over on purpose when he killed her. My heart just sunk. This is what my little girl is carring around in her heart. I have a call out to her counselor for visits again. But the counselor is on maternity leave. Something will work out. Like I said before he is pushing contempt charges on me so they could do something on Wed about it. I do know this, if they don't order supervised visits, I will be going to jail for sure because I WILL NOT SEND THEM!! Just be in prayer. Thanks so much girls!

robynhgl · Mar 11, 2007, 10:04 PM

If that is what your child is telling you--you need to get her to the PC immediately, you should also contact the prosecutor's office if they suspected any foul play at the time of the woman's death, but could not prove it. Often times they choose not to prosecute and lose for lack of evidence--but they can and will go forward later if they get what they need to win a conviction.

Was your daughter at that home when the death occurred? Could she have witnessed it?

rodeogirl2you · Mar 12, 2007, 06:02 AM

No, she wasn't there when it happened. It's the most outragouse thing I've ever heard of in my life. They totally let him go. People have called the police left and right with info regarding his temper, dui's, and drug problem etc. They just don't seem to care. It already went in front of the DA and he decided no charges were going to be pressed. So he litereally got away with murder! Everyone is just sick about it. Especially her family. I have told the PC this. I guess we'll see what happens Wed. Like I said, the justice system is a joke. We are only relying on the true Word of God.