[alchemist13]

What does a female feel when ever she had orgasm? Ever since I had sex with my husband (even since were not yet married) I never felt happy after our sex. I feel arouse, but when he will about to blow it out, the sensation just stop and that's the clue that our love making ends there. Is there something wrong to me ? I'm only 20 years old but I'm having this kind of problems considering that we are adventurous couple when it comes to sex things... Huhuhu please help me..

[Cat1864]

The first thing to know is that many women, if not most, have problems reaching orgasm from just penetration. They need outside help usually from manual manipulation or some type of sex aid (such a vibrator or rings made to go around the base of the penis) stimulating the clitoris. Different positions can also offer more stimulation. It's trial and error as to which one works best for a couple.

The second thing to remember is that arousal begins long before you get anywhere close to having intercourse. Getting your mind involved and ready for sex will help your body relax and be better prepared for climax.

Do you masturbate and can you bring yourself to climax? Masturbation is way to find out more about your body and what you like and dislike. It does not take anything away from intimacy with your husband and can even enhance it.

Have you talked to your husband about your sexual needs? Have you tried experimenting together? Do you let him know what feels good and what doesn't? Communication is a very important part of working with your partner to enhance your sex life. Through communicating and learning together, you might find that you, as a couple, need to concentrate more on foreplay than penetration.

Another thing to keep in mind is that orgasm shouldn't be the goal of having sex. The journey to get there should be as much if not more fun. Let yourself to get full involved in what you are feeling and being aroused. Try not to let distractions such as thoughts about what you want to happen to keep you from having fun and feeling good whether you climax or not.

Good luck and have fun experimenting with what works for you.