[jessam]

The guy I as going out with wanted to talk. So I went to his house to talk and he tried to stall, and then he said he loves me a lot and don't want to hurt me and never used me but he has been thinking how it would be to be with others girls.

He said he didn't want to hurt me and he didn't want us to break up or take a break but he thinks we should take a break. He said he will always be there for me and wants us to talk and be close friends.

Later I asked him if he figures out his mind and does move on, would and could we be together, and have a chance, and he quickly said yes.

So was this a break, or break up, since no time was given even though he said break?

[talaniman]

but he has been thinking how it would be to be with others girls.

Sorry, but he was letting you down easy, and leaving the door open just in case.

For your own good, see this as a break up, and he may NEVER come back. Sorry, again, and I hope I'm wrong, but I doubt it, as he probably already has others in mind to check out.

Please do not just wait for him, or take him back with open arms if he fails on his attempts to get with someone else. Don't have false hope because I know this hurts. Breaks/break ups, always hurts, and they SUCK, but only for a while. We heal, thrive, and survive them to be happy again.

[WVmudmouth]

I don't do "breaks" in a relationship. It's a 75% break-up pretty much. A lot of people use "break" as a scapegoat to break a relationship off after "doing much needed thinking alone" even though during that break 99% of people are out fulfilling their desires of the "break" in the first place. Im giving you my honest opinion, if he wants to see what it's like to be with other girls, than it's a break-up. Let it go. And move on.

[slico79]

My advice, break up with him. If he really loves you then he doesn't need to think about other girls. He only said the things you've written above to have someone to fall back to in case his new girl "prospect" won't accept him or break up with him. Are you going to wait when that happens?

[jessam]

My ex and I have been together on and off for 3 and a half years. We recently broke up in September due to personal problems he was having that was affecting our relationship, but we have stayed great friends. We still go out together, we still spend time with each others family like we did on this past Thanksgiving, and even spend nights together.

We want to be together so bad, but I know he is unsure about us being together so soon or just not at his time. We have our sweet calm moments and still love each other. We even have sex when we can't help it, since we try keeping sex and kissing out the picture till we are back togeher.

What do I do to get him to ask me to be with him again, or do in general. Help please

[talaniman]

Stop giving the milk away free, and stop acting like couple when you are not. No you aren't real friends, you are FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS.

Leave him alone, and he will either commit, or get a new friend who gives him what he wants, when he wants it without a commitment, or title.