[delwill15]

Been seeing my boyfriend since January and it was a slow to develop but we now see each other everyday (although he works a lot of shift work) we will still manage to see each other. Lately he seem distant not so loving and I have asksed if he wants space to 'chill' on his ow, but he always says come over. Feel a bit confused about how he really feels. He was away for 1 night 2 weeks ago and when I saw him the following day he admitted that he missed me the previous night. He blows hot and cold, not sure where I stand. Any advice

[Wondergirl]

I suggest you stop obsessing over how he feels and what he might be doing when he's not with you. Be busy and active in your own life, which will make you an interesting person he will want to be with, and not a clingy, needy girlfriend that he can't wait to get away from.

[DaniCalifornia]

I think everyone hits this stage if they're seeing each other often.

I can openly admit I've actually been through it with my current partner. (Luckily I had people on this site to help me ;)). We'd see each other a lot, we began to argue, and he eventually asked for space. Luckily, at the time he asked for it, I had my realistic head on and accepted that we needed a few days apart to do our own thing, no responsibility with contacting each other (previously I would have questioned the whole relationship, "Oh my God i can't believe he's okay without me" etc). Now, we miss each other, accept each others differences, and have sections of each others lives that we aren't particularly involved in. (He's a Liverpool fan and I'm a Villa fan, haha.)

The more independent you are, the more he will want to spend time with you. But it's important to have your own life, it's okay to reject him once in a while when he asks if you "Want to come over". Have a girls night in. He'll miss you, and it'll be better when you next see each other.

X Dani