[Agyella]

This is quite embaressing writing about this, but I thought it would be good to get some impartial advice. My boyfriend (26) and I (20) have been together for a year and a half. We knew each other for five years before we became an item. We weren't very careful and I ended up pregnant after only a couple of months, so things moved very fast for us. But the sex was fine - we'd have it every day (even through the nausious stage) and sometimes more than that. We moved in together after eight months (quite quick, I know, but we had a baby to consider). After we moved in together, the sex went down to two or three times a week, which I know is normal. And then I had the baby and we didn't have sex for a month (naturally lol). But after I healed we started having it again, but after a while, he suddenly didn't seem to want it any more, and would only have sex with me if I pushed it. It's been a couple of months now (because I don't want to have to persuade my own bopyfriend to have sex with me). He won't kiss me, or even touch me (not even casually, like a hug. And he moves away if I try to touch him.) He's also started to get very secretive - he takes his phone in the shower with him, when he never minded leaing it around before. He has a son by his ex girlfriend, and he lied about spending extra time with her (when I never would have minded as they have a child together!) He won't take me to see his family anymore, and when they ask me to come over, he declines on my behalf. The whole thing is making me feel so awful about myself. I can't help wondering what iss so wrong with me that he doesn't want to have sex. I hate to think it, but do you think he reallyis hiding something?

[talaniman]

Its not the sex, the lust has worn off and nothing else has replaced it. Seems he is doing to you what he did with the other baby momma, distance himself. I know you want this to be about you, and sex, but its not. Its about the distance between you, and a lack of communications.

Until you two can honestly express yourselves the distance gets greater, and there is no acknowledging and identifying the problem, or resolving it.

Unless two partners are willing to share and care, they grow apart. Talk to your partner is your next step. Calmly, and hope he is willing to listen, and share with you also.

Lack of sex is merely a symptom of a greater problem that needs to be addressed, in other areas of the relationship. So don't feel bad about yourself, find out what on this guys mind.

No communications, no relationship, how can there be?

[Synnen]

What does he say when you calmly ask him about these red flags?

[AJ_Hunsucker]

He is not planing but he has decided to do the same as he did with another girl. Just pack your bags and arrange your next shelter. He will get rid of you within a short period. Hurry, you have very little time.

[DaniCalifornia]

He sounds a bit of an arse.

Have you tried talking to him about how this sudden lack of intimacy makes you feel?