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jt1250champion · Sep 30, 2011, 09:51 AM

So I'm bisexual and I like this girl(I'm a girl). She had a boyfriend since 3 years ago and I'm so sad. She always talks about him and she's always telling me what they do and I hate that.

She collects these smiley stickers so I gave her this blue one. And then she gave it to her boyfriend. I was really mad and stopped talking to her and she said she was really sorry and thought I gave her the yellow one.

So 2 days ago, I came out to her that I loved her and she seems fine with that but I haven't seen her ever since and I don't know what to do if she starts talking to me about her boyfriend or the fact that I like her. Also, should I ask for a relationship. I don't know whether she is straight or not or anything but I really want her to be my girlfriend

Thanks in advance for any help you can give me

I'm asking this girl to be my girlfriend and I am so nervous. I am always nervous and would like to know how not to be nervous or at least not act like I'm nervous

Wondergirl · Sep 30, 2011, 02:35 PM

Is your nervousness inside you or do you show it with actions?

Cat1864 · Sep 30, 2011, 05:05 PM

Jt, it doesn't matter if she is bi or not, she has a boyfriend and that means she is not available for a relationship with you.

If she did leave him to be with you, who would she be willing to leave you to be with? It would mean that she has no problem jumping from one person to another should someone 'better' come along. It also doesn't speak very well of your morals if you are willing to try take her away from someone else.

Why don't you focus on someone who is available?

jt1250champion · Oct 1, 2011, 05:12 PM

@wondergirl I'm not sure I think I sometimes show it though

@cat1864 I actually am trying to be with another person now
And I'm not asking her to leave her boyfriend

Cat1864 · Oct 2, 2011, 05:24 AM

Originally Posted by jt1250champion

Also, should I ask for a relationship. I don't know whether she is straight or not or anything but I really want her to be my gf

I am going to be very blunt and it is probably going seem harsh to you. I hope it does because you need to stop and think about what you want.

You want her to be your girlfriend (your words), but she has a boyfriend and you are trying to get with someone else. So what are you looking for? An open relationship with the new person and her? Are you hoping her boyfriend will go along with the plan? Or cheating on your respective partners.

If you are old enough to date, you are old enough to understand that being bi-sexual does not mean you have a right or privilege to be in two relationships at once.

If you are looking for an open relationship with both the new person and her, then you have to be honest from the beginning and she has to be honest with her boyfriend. Somehow, I doubt your respective partners will be as open to the idea as you might want them to be.

Think about what you really want and be honest with yourself. If you want her to be your friend and nothing else, then be a friend. If you want her to be your girlfriend, then walk away before you do something you should know is wrong.

Fr_Chuck · Oct 2, 2011, 05:40 AM

I have to ask or wonder you age, first you don't "Love" someone one day and the next be OK with dating someone else.

And you don't "love" someone that you have never dated.

Also if you were able to steal them away from one boy or girl friend, who is to say they would not do the same to you.

Being bi is not an excuse not to have good morals on stealing a person from someoneelse