[ilovebenlascko]

I'm 11 years old and I have a MASSIVE crush on a boy at my school. His name is {personal info removed}. I danced with him once but he seemed really uncomfortable. I told him I really liked him and I asked him out but he said no. I still REALLY like him but I don't think he likes me? I really don't know what to do! Help me!!

[ScottGem]

You are too young to be in a boy/girl relationship. Enjoy your childhood and stop being in such a hurry to group up. Wait a few more years.

[Wondergirl]

At this age, guys get all quiet and uncomfortable when girls tell them they like them or want to hold hands and stuff like that. You see, girls mature a lot faster than boys do, and boys don't catch up until they are in their 20s. That means when they're young, girls have to act a certain way around boys they like.

Here's what you do: Find out what he likes. Let's say he likes professional basketball. Read up on team names, so when he talks about the Heat, you know they're from Miami, Florida. Or maybe he likes the Bulls. Bingo -- Chicago. Then find out which team he likes. Read up on that team and learn the players' names. Spend some time watching games if it's during the playing season, or go to the library to get sports magazines that you can bring home to read about his favorite team and other teams. Then, if he says he can't stand LeBron, you'll know who he's talking about and can chime in with your own comments.

It's the same thing if he says he likes cars. You don't have to know much to ask him about cars. Just ask leading questions and let him talk. Throw in a question now and then to keep him talking. Once you have a good idea of what he likes, go to the library. It has lots of books on cars -- antique cars, sports cars, collectible cars -- plus magazines like Motor Trend and the annual April issue of Consumer Reports that feature new cars. The Internet is full of car information too.

The main thing you want to do is find out what he likes -- sports, cars, movies, dogs, math and science, favorite books, certain foods -- and then do research plus talking with him about his favorite things. This will help you figure out how a guy's mind works, plus he will begin to like you a lot because you are interested in something he enjoys. You will become friends who enjoy being together because you have become interested in it too and know more about it.

[adviceangel123]

Your young live life to the fullest and don't go get a boyfriend because everyone else is . Be different .
Cut from the herd . ; p
And the answer to your question is ;
Girls mature faster than guys. So when your ready to be 'dating' , boys are still in the child stage and arnt ready to the idea of it .

[Alty]

You're 11. You're way too young to date, and the boy is as well.

Wait a few years, then see how things are going with this boy. I'd bet that in 3 years you won't be interested in him anymore. Relationships at your age never last long.

Grow up a bit, let the boys catch up too, then you can date. Until then, cool your heals and be a kid, because that's what you are. :)

[lauraDrules]

I'm 11 too and to be honest I really (and I mean REALLY!) fancy a guy in my class, he acts like an a hole though around me and most people say that's how boys say they like you and I really hope he does. I used to go out with him, but that was 3 years ago and we wer only tiny.all you people that say that we are too young to date, its completely up to us not you just please answer without judgement it really isn't our fault it just seems to happen.

[ScottGem]

all you people that say that we are too young to date, its completely up to us not you just please answer without judgement it really isnt our fault it just seems to happen.

Sorry it is not completely up to you. Its up to your parents. At 11 you have to abide by their rules. And judgment is very much a part of this subject. Our judgment based on years of experience as well as having gone through it ourselves, is that 11 is to young to date. At 11 you are not mature enough to deal with the issues of romantic relationships. At 8 you weren't dating but playing at dating. At 11 you are trying to grow up too quickly.

The media is glorifying adult relationships and young people are trying to emulate that before they are ready.

[T_Swag]

Listen, I'm 11 Also. I'm in a relationship. Just be yourself. And if you want to know if he likes you back, Just ask him, If he says " No! "Just say "Okay, I just wanted to know." And don't be shocked if he says " Yeah " I've only dated 1 guy. His names Kennith. I love him.

To adults,

Don't get mad if I say this but, You D O N ' T understand us kids these days. We just want to have some fun. And if not fun, We're looking for L O V E. Me & My boyfriend are serious. We love each other to death. We've fought before & We tease each other. This action's called " Flirting "

Me & My boyfriend are deeply in love. I WANT to kiss the hell out of him but I'm a shy girl.
But I hugged him before. He DOES want to kiss the hella out of me buuuuut that won't ever happen :)

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[Fr_Chuck]

Sorry, but we understand it all too well, you are the one that has no idea and can ruin your childhood trying to pretend to be grown up.

[ScottGem]

Don't get mad if i say this but, You D O N ' T understand us kids these days. We just wanna have some fun. And if not fun, We're looking for L O V E.

You make a typical juvenile mistake in thinking adults don't understand you. You forget that we went through what you are going through now. But we can look back on what we went through with the hindsight gained from time and experience.

You are not in love with your boyfriend, you are in love with the idea of being in love. Yes you are looking for love, because you are being bombarded by TV shows, movies, books, etc. that make it seem like being in love is the greatest thing in the world so you want to experience it. But you are too young, you have not matured enough to cope with the emotions necessary.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to have fun, but there are different types of fun that are appropriate for your ages. You don't say how your parents feel about you having a boyfriend. Are they allowing it?

The bottom line here is you need to allow yourself to grow and mature. Trying to act like an adult when you aren't one will not get you there faster. Enjoy the carefree days of childhood, they don't last too young.

And do not make the mistake that adults don't understand you. Its you who don't understand.