[Mind Drifter]

Ok look about two years ago I met this girl and we kicked it off from the start we were like no one could get between us (but is was in a friendship way) well about a year after we met we started dateing well after we started dateing thing started going down the drain with our friendship well we split up and moved on well we started talking a little as time went by and I learned she had met this guy she worked with and they started dateing also this guy she was seeing his uncle was the boss of were they worked.. well a few mouths passed and her boyfriend got fired and she started dateing his uncle... then her ex gets locked up and she starts talking to him again so at this point she is with both the uncle and the nephew!! Then after a few months her ex got back out and they went off and got married and that same day he gets locked back up(she is still sleeping with his uncle at this point) well the uncle knows that his nephew trusts him with everything so he tries to get her to move down to were he is at so they can be together while is nephew is locked up and the nephew wantes her to go down there so his uncle can keep and eye on her and I know she is going to get cought because she never thanks before she speaks and she is going to slip I have seen her do it many times!! She says she wants to drop the uncle and just be with the nephew but every time she gets on the phone with the uncle its like nothing els is around her and she forgets about what she really wants!! I know I'm an ex but I was a friend before and I will be a friend till the end and I just can't seem to get it throu her head that if she keeps it up she going to get hart in every way!! What do I do I neede help I don't want to see my friend hurt because she can't pick one person... What would be some things I could tell her to help stear her down the right path? Please help me!! :(

[chuff]

The best thing you could tell her is that she's a complete idiot and not worthy of being trusted. I'm dead serious too. I would tell her that you can't trust a married woman who sleeps with other member's of her husband's family.

The bigger question though it what exactly are you getting here? I mean she's not really a friend is she? She obviously can't be trusted. She doesn't put herself it good situations and now she's draging you in. I'm not sure that's really a friend.

This is going to get worse, not better so you can either follow her down or let her go. You can't bring someone like that up. They must do it themselves.

[shygrneyzs]

This is sad and sick and serious. Your friend is also not very smart. I do not know what excucses she gives herself for being with the uncle and his nephew in the same time. Is the uncle also a sugar daddy?

You can tell her that while you want to be her friend, she makes it impossible for you to be around and watch her wreck her life. There is nothing you can do that will change her, because she does not see the need. If she slips, let her fall. Do not, DO NOT, be the one with the net. She knoes she is burning the candle at both ends.

Sometimes the hardest thing we can do for someone we care about, is to allow then to make their decisions and learn their own lessons. What happens if she gets pregnant by the uncle while her husband is locked up? I imagine she is smart enough there to take precautions.

I agree with Chuff on this - you got to let her go. Tell her why and stick to your word.

[talaniman]

You have no control over people and the things they do. Her entire life and the way she does things is unhealthy and she will pay the consequences no doubt, nothing you can say or do about that. If you want drama get cable, much safer as you do not want to be caught up in hers. You may be a friend, but she isn't and the balance between you two is unhealthy. Leave the idiot to her own fate, and put as much distance as possible between you for your own sake.