[ninoo]

Hi. My parents are divorced it has been 4 years now. That's not the problem. The problem is that I live with my mother, and my mother had a boyfriend. He was 28, and my mom was 34, there was a big difference in the age. Both of them wanted to marry each other, but her boyfriends parents did not want him to marry my mom, because she already had two kids, and he was never married before. So his mother fixed his engagement with another girl.

They had to break up, because my mother said "I don't want to destroy your life I want you to have your own kids and be happy." They broke up. My moms ex boyfriends' wedding was fixed after a year, and before that they both met and now they are back together, and he has to get married in a month.

So he picks us up every night, my mother and him start drinking, and I am there, and then my moms boyfriend cries, and cries and saying to me "I don't want to leave you and go, you are my daughter, and I can't leave you". And my mother saying prepare her from now, otherwise its not going to be good. And then we saying I will never go, I will never leave my daughter, and you, and cries, cries, and cries.

But he has to marry that girl, because his mother says so, and she hates my mother for no reason, so things are not working out, and I get so sad, because I really really love him as a dad, and he loves me very, very much too.

Sincerely, ninoo-14 years old.

[talaniman]

So sorry the adults have involved you in the adults mess. They should not have. But what you need to do is stop snooping (got that from your other post), and have a heart to heart talk with your mom. Its important that she knows how you feel about this situation, and just my opinion, talk to you about stay out of adult stuff. Until she knows how this affects you, she won't know how to help, and there is a lot she can do to help.

You have to talk to her. No way around this.

[ninoo]

Thank you so much talaniman:) I have talked to my mother about this a lot of times and she knows how I feel? But should I be in the hope that my mothers ex-boyfriends will marry her and come back to us?

[talaniman]

I know you have high hopes that he will stay in your lives but from the outside looking in, I have to honestly tell you that it may not happen, but no one can see the future.

Hope for the best, but prepare for the worse.

[ninoo]

Losing him is like losing your parent its really hard. But OK ill prepare myself for the worse.