[Fubared]

My Girlfriend of about 8 months long distance that we see each other at least once every 4 weeks and she says that she only wants me and is looking forward to spending our lives together. I saw on a recent visit while sitting next to her she checked her email and noticed she got an email from a dating website. I thought at first it was an old profile and forgot to delete and didn't want to rock the boat. I then when she left opened up an account myself just to see what she was looking for and whatnot. I saw that she had some rather recent pics and saw that she hadn't been on for a while. I saw recenty that she has been on everyday this last week. I am going for a visit in a couple of weeks and was wondered how to handle this. It says she is looking for a long term relationship and all the while she tells me how much she loves me and can't wait for my upcoming visit.

[Tamsyn]

This happened to me with my ex-boyfriend, however we weren't long distance. I think they just want the attention, nothing physical ever came out of his, but I still saw it as a road to cheating. The best thing you can do is just ask her about it, don't tell her you've been looking into it. If she lies and says 'oh that's an old one blah blah' then let rip about dishonesty.
But really, if you're attentions aren't enough then maybe long distance might need to be rethought?

[vanheart]

Stop snooping.

Talk to her. Find out if she is as serious as you. Where you stand.

Trust & communication is everything. Especially LD.

If she's looking to keep her options open, then you may want to reconsider your plan.

Never be an option.