[rd_bolduc]

I've been seeing this guy for a little over three months. A week before we started seeing each other he broke up with his girlfriend of two years. She wants him back, and we just got in a conversation that he's not sure if he wants her back or not cause he really likes me.. I some what understand, though its not really fair. (He also told me he has not been talking to her nor seeing her since they broke up) I told him I wouldn't talk to him for a week for him to be able to figure things out. Though he didn't agree, he's been texting me and messaging me on Facebook quite often since.. It's only been 24h. It now seems like he's getting upset. Obviously I want to talk to him and such.. But I don't know! What do I do?

[ken007nielsen]

I don't think your going to follow my advice to be honest.

But this sounds like a rebound. He's hurt and in need of love since his relationship has ended, and you are a new girl with tons of affection as is any new couple, that allows him to keep his mind off his life as it is now. But once he's healed you may not be that interesting anymore!

A good rule of thumb is: Don't date anyone recently out of an relationship.

[TrueFaith]

I agree this sounds like a rebound, he wants to have the best of both worlds now.

Your not someone's icing on the cake!
You are way more than that and deserve to be treated as such

Don't let yourself down by allowing this to continue any further
Why on earth would you want to be with someone if your not there first and only choice

He says he is not sure because he really likes you? Honestly really you want to pine over someone like that?
You know it's not right that's why you are hear

Do the right thing and tell him your no ones 2nd prize, why should I wait around to See if you want to be with me?
Thanks for the memories bye.

The go no contact

If you do keep on talking to him taking his bate then the only person that will get hurt here is you.

All the best

[ITstudent2006]

I can't agree more with the two above. You can either continue dating him and second guessing every text he sends or phonecall he makes or you can sit him down and discuss the fact that until he chooses for good, you're not going to stick around.

What you're allowing him to do to you is completely degrading. Have some respect for yourself and do NC until this guy makes up his mind. As of right now, he's probably playing both sides, waiting for himself to make a decision.

P.S. I don't mean "playing both sides" in a physical sense.

[talaniman]

How old are you both?

He was single for a week before you met so you hooked up rather fast, since its only been a few months, so consider, he may be desperate to have this work, and not have two failed relationships in a few months.

Rebound?? Sure looks like it, and you have already put to many of your eggs in a strangers basket, way to fast.

His ex wants him back, and you better find some emotional distance as this situation may be fun, but things have changed enough for you to protect yourself.

Do that by leaving him alone, and healing yourself, because he needs time anyway. Hey this is no ones fault, its just that new break ups, and exes still involved are red flags to pay attention too.

That's why your ages are important, as high school is a lot different than the adult world when you get advice.