[tanusam]

If I got sex with my boyfriend before marriage do my husband get doubt on mi that I have lost my verginity... :confused:

[Fr_Chuck]

I will, since you did not tell us, assume you are from a culture that expects a women to be a virgin upon marriage. But for some reason the men don't mind having sex before with girlfriends.

I will also assume you are not going to marry your boyfriend.

Can you give more details about why this is of such importance ?

[tanusam]

As I belongs from hindu political family... and our society is not much frank to allow women to lost verginity before marriage... and I got sex with my boy friend and we are going to marry... in future if I don't te my hubby that I have lost my verginity do still he comes to know that I'm not vergin please reply mi fast and properly

[tanusam]

I'm not going to marry my boyfriend

[Aurora_Bell]

It's hard to tell if someone has lost their virginity, many women lose it before ever having sex. The use of tampons, horse back riding, falls, bike riding can all cause the hymen to break. The only problem here is that YOU will know. If it is against your religion and culture to do so, maybe you should reconsider having sex. Why wouldn't you marry your current boyfrind?

[Cat1864]

Making certain I understand what you are saying:

You had sex with your boyfriend who you are not going to marry.

You are now supposed (or expect) to marry another man.

You want to know if your future husband will be able to tell you if you are a virgin or not when you marry.

While many people these days know that the traditional method of judging a woman's virginity (an intact hymen) is extremely flawed for the reasons Aurora gave, there are still some who believe 'breaking' the hymen and spotting blood is the only way to know for certain the woman was a virgin. Other reasons this logic is flawed is that some women are born without hymens, others are so thin they offer little resistance, and still others are elastic enough to expand instead of 'breaking'.

However, you know you are not a virgin. I can understand the reasons for not wanting to admit you have been sexually active. I do have some sympathy, but I also know that starting your marriage on a lie is not good either. There are too many ways for your husband to find out the truth including from you by accident. Only you know which would be worse: Telling him before the wedding or him finding out or suspecting the truth after the wedding.

I sincerely hope that the man you marry will be understanding and you can be honest with him.