[Steph_Love]

Hi everybody,
To make this brief, I've been dating someone for three and a half years. It was on and off where most of the time he was the one to initiate the break-up. He moved away a while ago and we kept a long-distance relationship. I went to visit him a few times searched for places to live together.

We talked about marriage and kids and we were both on the same page. Things in my life were not going well and I was miserable for the most part. So he broke-up with me and we decided to have no contact for a while.

It's been four months and he emailed me asking how I was doing and if I was seeing anyone. I said no and he said he went on a few dates but no luck yet. I told him that I missed him and I hope I can find someone that I can love as much as I love him and he said that he missed me too but the break-up was the right decision for us and he's comfortable in his life right now.

I know we are a good fit. We're very attracted to each other and want the same things in life. I KNOW he will want me again if he knew that I'm not miserable anymore and I can show him that if we could just go out a few times. The problem is that he lives a plane ride away and don't want to seem desperate by going there to visit him.

What do I do? I was moving on fine and past the grieving stage until he emailed me. Any advice would me much appreciated.

[Steph_Love]

Isn't there ANYONE that could give SOME advice?

[JoeCanada76]

First: A little patience would go a long way. Your question will be answered as soon as somebody is able to answer it.

Second: Break up, back together, break up, back together, break up and back together, break up...

Third: Long distance,

Fourth: He emailed you just to tell you that he is good and fine that the break up needed to be final but now your thinking it is possible to get back together again. For what? To break up again.

Fifth: Should sever the ties. No more emails, no more contact. Please move on this time.

It is not good for you to keep going back and forth and it was not fair for him to email you out of the blue like that and then tell you it was good to stay apart. Now your finding yourself wanting to be with him. Please learn from what happened when you guys were in the relationship.

You will find somebody to love even more. Might not be right away but you need to leave this alone for your own sanity.

[talaniman]

You should have cussed him out for raising false hopes in you and dashing them to shreds with that lame "for the best line".

Buts that's why you ignore them when they dump you. Start back to NC, and stick to it.

[vanheart]

"I was moving on fine and past the grieving stage until he emailed me"

He doesn't want you, then wants you, then doesn't, then does.

Are you a yo-yo?