[Rocsy]

Ive been dating this guy G for 5 months and he is the best.I know he will never hurt me and really loves me BUT there is qualities missing that I really need. I need affection,fun flirtyness, outgoing exc but he isn't those things he is very loyal,romantic and lovable but there isn't that sexapeal I'm looking for.. So he's perfect accept for the fun part and now I've got to know this other guy who is everything I want... Now I'm so confuesed on how to handle the situation,I don't want to loose my boyfriend but I can't compromise everything I want... I'm kind of between a rock and a hard place.. if I stay with my boyfriend ill always be happy but always longing for more than he can give me... if I leave my boyfriend how will I know I will be treated the same and not get hurt by the onther guy?and what if I never get someone like me boyfriend again,and prob nr 2 my boyfriend isn't working - he has a dream to get a farm ext but not doing much to get there so can't give me anything but love (he's 21) the other guy has a house,car work etc so can give me a lot more (hes 25) I'm 22.. . Please help om so confeused

[JoeCanada76]

Love can be confusing. The thing is In a way you answered your own question. Can you stay with your boyfriend knowing that you want more all the time. It seems to me that you might want to stay with your boyfriend because you do not want to hurt him. At the same time 5 months is not really a long relationship. Also you can not guarantee not to get hurt by anyone. There is never that guarantee and for all know you might get hurt several times down the road. Or maybe not at all. Life is about experiencing the good and the bad. Learning how to deal with it. Moving on and seeing what else life has to offer.

At the same time have you ever talked to your boyfriend about the things that you would like to see in the relationship? How you would like to have fun? Is there anyway you could introduce that into this relationship.

As far as dream job owning a farm. Well that is not much is it. Farms can be expensive and it all depends on where he wants to go with that but according to you he is not really motivated.

You could be hurt either way, The thing is in life we need to take chances and see what else is out there. It is your decision and your decision alone.