[sadnlostedddd]

I was with this girl for 3 months over the summer. We interned together and she kind of came on to me when we first met. We started hanging out and then things turned physical and we started dating. The whole time we were together I think we both had the understanding that we wanted to make things last, even though we went to different schools (just an hour away). When summer ended and she went back to school she kind of started to not respond to my texts as much.

Last weekend during the hurricane I asked her what was wrong and she apologized and asked me to forgive her, saying she was just really busy getting everything right with classes. But this past week she was basically the same way. My question is what should I do. Does this mean she just doesn't want to date me any more. I feel like she's a nice enough girl that she would at least say she wanted to stop talking if she did.

The thing is she is a 'bad texter' and never really responded over the summer, but I feel like since we aren't seeing each other a lot we should be communicating more. Should I just ask her or assume it's done?

Thanks.

[Cat1864]

Do you mind if I ask where you live?

She may still be busy trying to get her life in order.

She may not like attempting to communicate through texting. Many people don't.

You say that she is a bad 'texter'. Is that the main way you try to communicate with her? Have you tried other means such as calling or emailing?

Communication is very important in any relationship. There is a 'however' though. However, so is accepting that sometimes the other person may not be available when you are or he/she may prefer to communicate by other means.

If you want the relationship to work out, ask her when and what form of communication works best for her. Let her know what works best for you. Find a compromise between the two. Understand that there is fine line between keeping in touch and going overboard.

Good luck.

[Toooldforthis]

Unforchantly major changes in people's life's change the person... It is like if something just clicked... and all of a sudden different people serve an important role. Just give it time... maybe like the other answer said... she's busy... but keep living while waiting.

[whit17]

First of all, some girls just have a lot of things in life that are going on that keep her from constantly being able to be on the phone. Don't worry. Secondly, DO NOT ASSUME what you do not know. Ask her. If you just assume things are over when they are not, she could get confused and think the same. Then you have lost something that could have been great.