[rage_08]

So I've been friends with this girl for a while and I just found out that she feels comfortable around me like she has never felt before. She has a b/f. She has made it pretty clear that she wants to be with me... but the problem is my ex (by the way she is still in love with me) is her best friend. And her b/f is one of my friends. I don't know what to do about this. Is there anybody out there that has been through this and can answer my question? What do I do?

[talaniman]

You leave her alone. What's up with going behind your friends back? What's up with allowing her to go behind your friends back? What's up with YOU messing with an exes friend? How old are you all?

Your circle of friends is to small and dysfunctional, because no one cares about going behind a friends back. That's not friends. That's a group of cheaters, right? She will go behind his back, she will go behind yours. Avoid those kinds of people because you can never trust them, or count on loyalty, but heck, doesn't sound like you can be trusted either, to be honest.

Birds of a feather, flock together.

[vanheart]

Sounds like you both have exs that you haven't let go.

Do that first.

How about being single? Fish in another pond.

There's way too much muck in this one.

[rage_08]

But u can't help it if your in love... or at least falling in love. There has to be another way

[Cat1864]

There really isn't.

She is in a relationship. It doesn't matter who that person is. She has a responsibility to herself and those she gets involved with to let go and move on/heal before she gets involved with the next person. What she is doing and you are encouraging because of your own reasons is becoming 'emotional cheating'. It is not healthy for either of you or any of the relationships involved.

You can help who you fall in love with if you accept your responsibility in the matter. When you realize you are becoming attached to someone who is unavailable, you back off and get involved with other aspects of your life. You stay away until those feelings pass. If they don't, then you stay away until the other person is available and not going to turn you into a rebound.

You do not want to be the reason someone leaves another person. If engenders mistrust and insecurity especially if the person gets close to another friend. The question is always there, 'Will she leave me for him?'

Get involved in interests you enjoy. Make new friends and widen your horizons. It will help you see everything in a very different way and you might find someone who is available who makes you feel like this person never could.

[slapshot_oi]

I can tell you from experience that it's best if you leave the girl with a boyfriend alone. Because, even if she leaves him for you and you end up dating, she may leave you for someone else, and continue the cycle. History tends to repeat itself.

[rage_08]

All right cat... I gotcha

[mmresd]

You need to pick up some manners and back off, respect her relationship if it was to end without any influence of yours then you can pusue something with her, until then she is off limits.