[AlphaImmortal]

Ok everyone, this is my first question on the site and was hoping I could get every one's opinion. I have been seeing this girl for about 6 months, we were high school friends back in the day. I'm 23 and she just turned 24. We both have sons with somebody else. My son is 1 and her son is 7.

We both used to have a crush on each other in high school but neither of us knew it. Anyway we have been together for just about six months, after a month of being together I told her I loved her, because I truly do, I've never been happier in my life, I always have smile when I think of her. She said she also loves me but I never hearing her say it first, which isn't a huge deal, just kind of iffy if you catch my drift.

She is not your typical girly girl, although she is absolutely beautiful. She has more guy friends than girls, again not a huge deal because most girls don't get along. We are still not officially a couple, I've asked her twice if she would like to be my girlfriend and become a couple but she told me she is scared. Scared of hurting me and herself. I have told her my complete feelings for her and tell her everyday that she means the world to me, and I'm glad to have her as part of my life.

I do want to be with this girl and possibly get married to her, we have talked about having kids together already but not until we are both financially stable so no worries about us having a kid until then. The first 3 weeks of us seeing each other we had sex everyday, and then maybe 3 times a week, and then 1 time and now its been about a month without any. I don't mind not having sex, and I'm completely fine with it, just seems odd how she never wants to anymore, or isn't showing any sort of affection.

She does come over maybe once a week to hang out, I always give her like a 2 hour massage, and we always cuddle up together and watch movies. We both say we love each other, and I'm just curious what other peoples opinion's are. She hasn't given me any reason to not trust her, so that's why I don't doubt her, but seems like she may be losing interest. Anyway let me know, guys or girls both welcome to reply, I look forward to hearing from you. If I didn't explain something feel free to ask. Thanks askmehelpdesk :)

[talaniman]

The problem as I see it is that you are already looking way down the road after 6 months. That's too soon in my opinion to build a comfortable communications foundation, even though the sex has been already been explored. I think you have a long way to go yet to see if this will even work long term, and what's the real red flag to pay attention to, you want more than she does in this early stage.

You aren't even a couple yet, and are still in the "having fun, getting to know each other better stage." You are moving way to fast, and your expectations are not realistic.

Forget the body, explore the mind, because the lust has clearly worn itself out, and has to be replaced by something from you both. You may be deep into her, but she isn't as deep as you are.

You better back up, slow down, and see that 6 months is not a life time commitment, so stop asking for a title, and don't wrap your whole life around her just yet. This is only casual dating right now. That's all.

[vanheart]

"after a month of being together I told her I loved her"

"We are still not officially a couple"

"I've asked her twice if she would like to be my girlfriend and become a couple but she told me she is scared"

"The first 3 weeks of us seeing each other we had sex everyday"

"I don't mind not having sex, and I'm completely fine with it, just seems odd how she never wants to anymore, or isn't showing any sort of affection"

How about taking a chill pill?

Try getting to know her. Without expectations.

How's your son?

[Bc_Fc15]

I'll tell you now girls are hard to read and I know I've got the same problem or did do the little things that get on your nerves like she'll never say I love you first that's natraul she always wants you to say it first just so she knows you love her. It's okay I bet deep down she really loves you. My girlfriend atm says I prefer it when were not going out I don't want to hurt you I'm like surly that's my choice but it shows she cares for you. Also if you think she's lost affection just show your there for her, show her you care that's what she wants. Trust me girls are funny characters but go with your heart. They play there own games so just wacth out. She might be trying to see if you just want to have sex all the time, she might be testing you all I say is just show her you love her she'll come around they always do. Good luck mate! I wish you the best